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Originally posted by Il Papa
Usual I start to get a sick feeling in the chest / solar plexus (could be just nerves I suppose) then I get the feeling, I can't explain the next bit in words but the feeling is not quite the same as normal emotions. Its kinda different...the difference is like the sensory differences of our skin. The sensory feelings in the skin can be touch or heat but whatever stimulus it is you know where it is happening..on the back of hand for example. Its a crap analogy but the best I can think of for now.[edit on 16-8-2007 by Il Papa]
Originally posted by Il Papa
I understand that empathy is a useful tool for healing. But I feel that without control of it is a curse.
I have been told that I have great empathic ability but I am letting my emotions control things. But I do not know what are my emotions and what are not. All I know is where I live is remote and I am balanced there. But get me in a city and I feel a different person, I am far more reactive to situations and people. It could be hate of big cities but generally it is a feeling like tears welling up...I feel oversensitive.
Someone I met a while back, just walked straight up to me and told me that I was empathic and that my emotions will destroy me if I don't learn how to control them. Quite impressive for a first meeting. This person absolutely knew what people were thinking and feeling..I was quite impressed. Unfortunately they did not give any real guidance for emotional control.
I used to think that empathy was just a role playing thing. You see someone in pain and you visualise it, and then feel "phantom" pain based on life experience. But now I know it is not so. I walk in a room and I feel emotions that were not there before. Its not because I can see pain, anguish or whatever on someones face but because it just appears.
Usual I start to get a sick feeling in the chest / solar plexus (could be just nerves I suppose) then I get the feeling, I can't explain the next bit in words but the feeling is not quite the same as normal emotions. Its kinda different...the difference is like the sensory differences of our skin. The sensory feelings in the skin can be touch or heat but whatever stimulus it is you know where it is happening..on the back of hand for example. Its a crap analogy but the best I can think of for now.
I hope you learn to control your empathy if you believe you have it. I think it is hard to diagnose. But believe me it is not the same as just thinking about someones condition and visualising the pain...either that or I am on about the wrong thing!!
From what I can make out the ideal thing is to be able to focus on someone, feel their pain, take it away and ground to the out realms. You can also use this as a means of finding the real illness and use other complementary or mainstream processes, affect a cure if possible. It sounds to me its easier to ground empathic feelings than sort out my emotions...that needs therapy
I am sure it could be a useful tool. But I do find it a pain....depression is very, very easy. Some will dispute if there really is an actual bono fide psychic realm thing as empathy. I have been told that you can pick up the emotions of spirits...I ask you what good is that? You can feel sadness but no-one can tell why or whom is responsible? Far more useful would be the clairaudiant "I am Bert Bloggs, I died a sad lonely death!!" rather than just the pain of sadness and loneliness when you walk in the room!!
I hope you get some answers, I know I am still looking.
Just had a thought. Whenever I have spirit encounters (if indeed that is what they are) it always manifests as feelings. I have not done so for some time but when I used to meditate or sit in at seances it was feelings I got. In fact a while back I had a thread here regarding a bright flash of light that accompanied me at times of great stress and despair. It manifested as a mischievous flash of light to my right that moved more and more excitedly to the front of vision the deeper I meditated. Thing is, I just realised that it was always accompanied by a feeling of a warm, loving, hug. Call me mad but that is what I felt I experienced. Don't know if that's related to empathy though.
[edit on 16-8-2007 by Il Papa]
Originally posted by earthchild
For me I know the I have to make an effort not to focus on negative things
or they amplify to those around me.
I have found yoga and meditation very calming and I have been able to centre myself somewhat.
Try not to let feelings of guilt about whats happening overwhelm you,
it is possible there is some other reason why your Dad seems to feel the way he does. Not necessarily something bad.
Perhaps you should work on this thing together.
All I can suggest and do some focusing excercies to increase your discipline. Keeping myself centred has done wonders for me.
There are lots of different threads here in the paranormal section about the subject.
The techniques are numerous so find something that works for you.
It's hard and takes time but I have felt that the results are worth it.
Good luck and try not to worry so much, I don't think you are nuts.