posted on Jun, 24 2007 @ 03:54 PM
I've come out of an extremely verbally and emotionally abusive relationship. My ex never hit me, wasn't necessary, but he did hit women before me as
I have found out since I left him.
Men like this are not rational or normal. It's all about control for them. She was leaving him, and so he killed her rather than let her go.
It's a terrible thing. I go to a support group with women whose men stabbed them and left them for dead. One woman was holding her two year old when
her ex tried to stab her to death.
These men don't care about the kids -- in fact, the children are just another way to control a woman.
And the most dangerous time in an abusive relationship is when a woman is pregnant, or when she tries to leave.
When people ask women like me, Why did you stay for so long? Other than the simple fact of traumatic bonding, otherwise known as
Stockholm Syndrome, many women know, deep in their hearts, that if they
leave, the guy might try to kill them. It happens with appalling frequency.