posted on Nov, 1 2006 @ 07:38 AM
Ahh yes, "taking it slow" been there done that.... and you know what..
Met my wife almost 9 years ago, we were just married this past March. How's that for taking it slow?
We met after both of us going through a divorce. Neither divorce was "ugly", just needed to go our separate ways.
We met online, just chatting amongst a group of friends for about 2 months.
Then we decided to spend more time talking to one another, in private, this took place for about a month. Then the phone calls started, at first 5-10
minutes a day, after a couple of weeks, 2-3-4 hours a day/night.
After a month of phone calls, we decided to meet. Once we met, 4 days passed, then I asked if I could see her again and I visited her. We were
together on weekends only at first, for about a month or so, then it was weekends and 2 other days a week for about 3 months. We couldn't stand it,
so I moved here to be with her, we decided to help save money, I could live with her and split the expenses.
Even though we lived together as a copule, we were still taking it slow. She still spent time with girlfriends, her bowling league and a lot of
family time, things that I didn't attend. I had my new job, so work took a lot of my time, but I made new friends and would do my thing.
We did this for about a year, then we both noticed the "change", feelings were growing, it was happening. We still chose not to rush into anything
more than what we already had. We were basically living as "Husband and Wife", but made sure that we just didn't give ourselves to each other
completely. We wanted to learn about each other, but slowly. We were together over 5 years before ever even bringing up Marriage. I finally decided
this was it, I love her more today than at any time during our relationship and she is the one for me. So here we are, married 8 months, been together
almost 9 years and more in love than ever.
I hope my story has helped show a couple of ways to "take it slow". Just hang in there, don't rush, don't be pushy and wait. It's all you can
do. I know from past experience, if you push, they'll run.
Good luck and god bless.