posted on Oct, 23 2003 @ 07:31 PM
I cannot speak for your friend as I do not know him but from the my own experience and those of others I know most would not turn gay out of some deep
hatred and rejection by a member of the opposite sex, most aregay and at some point decide to acknowledge it and act upon it, your friend
sounds either bi-sexual or the exception that proves the rule.
You seem keen to make anology's between gays and certain members of society whose actions are for the most part negative and destructive to those
around them as well as themselves, why not comparisons with say, someone who has a desire to paint, or learn a new skill or retake their marriage
vows, something positive and empowering. It sounds as though your trying to intimate sin by association and it's a fatuous tactic as it's proving
nothing other than each issue should be regarded within it's own context. As to your question as why it should be OK when the others are not well
it's pretty obvious do I really need to answer it! Consensual adult choice relating to consensual adult matters. Try living next door to a junkie
then your average gay person to see the vast difference. BTW many animals exhibit gay behaviour, sometimes exclusively and if animals can't make
choices how come my cat always prefers a certain brand of cat food and the same spot under the same chair.
As for your own feelings, I applaud you for your honesty as I suspect that some, not all but some, of the homophobia encountered on this board and
elsewhere is due to much the same inner turmoil. I hope you find much happiness with the woman you love and good luck but you have a choice, I've yet
to meet the woman I fall in love with, marry or want to have sex with and I doubt very much I ever will so sexually am I supposed to cease to exist.
Lucky you for having a choice to make.
Finally I very much disagree that my being allowed to act on my desires is as bad as being allowed to rape a child. Have you ever seen the aftermath
of rape, child or adult, again a highly questionable and tenuous comparison. I also very much disagree that I should be treated just like an alcoholic
or junkie, I should be treated like a human being with rights and freedoms as well as responsibilities and be left to make my own decisions like any