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originally posted by: Cutepants
Sounds like he's too proud and insecure to go through the "humiliation" of failing over and over again, until he learns. He hides from failure by just focusing on the digging. And his bad attitude could be a defense mechanism too, an excuse to not keep practicing, even a form of self-sabotage, if part of him finds it easier to just give up. I guess you said this already though, sorry.
I dunno. Maybe tell him about when you had to learn something.
originally posted by: SlapMonkey
a reply to: dug88
He sounds like my 14-year-old son, which is my way of saying it seems like he has a maturity-level problem when it comes to work.
You noted his age group, and I would be quick to generalize by saying that they have grown up in an immediate-results world--TV on demand, video games on phones, instant communications at any time with any person, etc., etc.
It's a sad truth, but there seems to be a segment of that age group who are just incapable of realizing that some things take time, and some things can actually take a lifetime to gain proficiency in. If he is unwilling to acknowledge and accept that, I would argue that he's probably too far gone to do jobs that take time and patience. It sounds like he's unwilling to put forth the effort and attention necessary to do the job correctly, so he'd rather dig ditches.
I don't understand that mentality, so I'm at a loss as to how to successfully change it, but it sounds like you're doing a good job trying. He may not be around much longer, but that's okay, because eventually he'll find somewhere that he fits if he can't make himself fit there.
Good on you for the efforts thus far.
originally posted by: stormcell
Make training videos where you talk through how to do something and fix errors as you go along. You don't need anything more than a smartphone to make a movie.
For a 3D modelling application like Blender this is the best way to learn. I've done woodwork in the past, and it's a similar process. What takes an expert 30 minutes in a talk through will take a learner 3 hours. But the good thing is if there is something you miss the first time, you can rewind the video and step through it again.
originally posted by: dug88
So actually showing him how I dealt with my mistake did seem to help. After I got back I brought him over and showed him the damaged piece and explained how I now had to deal with this. I figured out how to fix it and had him watche work through the problem. It seemed to help. He was surprised I wasn't mad I explained to him getting mad would not have helped ya know...how # happens you just gotta be able to deal with it. He did point out this is something he needs to be able to do and asked if he could work with me for the day. So hopefully it goes well.
I don't necessarily feel responsible and i'm normally fairly quick to just not bother any more when people don't try. I dunno i've met and worked with a lot of people. I've found sometimes it's better to try and help someone with a positive attitude who just may not get things sometimes then work with someone that may know what to do but has a #ty attitude.