I seriously see why people SNAP at work!

a reply to: mblahnikluver

I know If we paired up we could be better than The Two Ronnies (look them up) but neither of us is called Ronnie.

a reply to: mblahnikluver

M, you need to read The Peter Principle. This book has helped me deal with some real dickheads through the many jobs I have held. Basically its premise is how people rise in a job to their highest incompetence and how to deal with them.

Heres a link...

Amazon , The Peter Principle

Me too. I get it, that's why I always request. No sorry, INSIST, that I am placed in a cubicle or office near the closest exit. Now that I work with my mother, and she's hit 50, I insist that she sit by the exit as well. Thankfully no one else seems to care if people go nuts in here or not so the request is always fulfilled.

-Alee

Yes your situation sucks! However you are not alone many people in the USA work hard for very little. I love my job but I don't get paid what I'm worth. As I'm sure many of us are in that boat.
Honestly ask yourself when you wake up for work, 'what a great day to use my time to make a wealthy person more wealthy!!' Think about it that is exactly what a large amount of the working class in this country do every day.
Now keep that in the forefront of your mind and realize that's the reality only you can change. Either way we are almost all slaves on this prison planet to our enigmatic masters!

a reply to: YouSir

I make a conscious effort to take myself off the clock here. I know I don't police myself. I constantly find mistakes I've made after I post, so it doesn't do me any good to point out the flaws other people make.

But when I am at work ... it's a different story.

a reply to: mblahnikluver

Now keep in mind that the husband has also been with his same employer for pushing 20 years now so this has built up over time, but he always takes half of December PTO and still has almost two to three months between the various different types of time off he can access. He also has recently moved into a new job where he gets to work from home always one and sometimes up to two days a week now.

Sometimes, it feels like they pay him to almost never be there.

a reply to: mblahnikluver

Frankly, if you are a young person, I would suggest you move to the Netherlands. I found working in the US to be an increasingly demeaning affair for a vairiety of reasons. What really turned me off was the increasing creep factor of the new hires. There's a whole world out there. Try it out!

a reply to: mblahnikluver

I have been working at the same place now for 4 years. I have seen many come and go. But your workplace environment is no different than mine.... except for the fact that I am becoming the general manager.

The staff here I have worked with since I started working but slowly 1 by 1 they are leaving. The am quit. The other am quit. The gm is quitting. A 5 year worker just quit. Another 6 year worker just quit. We have a few replacements but they aren't the best. In fact the most common thing I notice out of all the new hires is they have enough energy and willingness like the first two weeks of working. Then they just die out. They need the money but they don't want to work. But they need the money... but work #ing sucks! But they really #ing need the money, but God dammit I hate this #! But that car costs 250 bucks a month to pay off but I hate #ing mopping!

I see it all of the time. And now one of the laziest employees we have is just now realizing an important factor when purchasing a used car sight on scene and as is. He now has a 600 dollar mechanic bill coming up and he #ing hates working... but now his need of money is so great.... I think he is going to flip. Maybe he will persevere, or just give up entirely. He has a cologne degree coming up but he has no job in the field he is studying for. And I have also tried to help him to become a better person for this job. But it just reeks of laziness and lack of confidence. He stands no chance after graduating college in obtaining his "dream job."

So one of the things that I have up my sleeve is my upcoming promotion. And my two week training. After that I get to make some major changes to the way we are currently doing things. And that involves a change of character. I do not think people will like me because of my principles.

So start making people do their work. Start acting like a boss and get them to get off their ass and do something. Get them to help you with their work. Ignore your boss when he says to take one for the team and start whipping people into shape as a team. Start showing them the cause and effect. Start making them realize what they are doing to others. Not just you yourself. Make them see what happens when you can't finish person a's work and you have to finish person b's work. Start acting more like those gravity balls that swing on a desk a d show them that when you swing 3 balls... the middle ball moves with them. It doesn't go the opposite direction. It also does not stand still. It can only keep moving.

Just start showing them the sad reality. Stop giving the big boss his fat pay checks and start making him feel like he can't do it. Start making him see that his entire team is # and he can't take in a bonus like he always does. Start making it seem like a replacement for you is needed. Even if you lose your job you need to do everyone of us workers a favor and start making the big boss realize his biggest mistake without pointing it out to him. He has to realize it himself.

originally posted by: TonyS
a reply to: mblahnikluver

Frankly, if you are a young person, I would suggest you move to the Netherlands. I found working in the US to be an increasingly demeaning affair for a vairiety of reasons. What really turned me off was the increasing creep factor of the new hires. There's a whole world out there. Try it out!

I am fairly young, 40 in November. My bf has a great job there and his own business on the side. We have discussed how me having my own business would be more beneficial for me.

I honestly just get tired of actually doing my job right and everyone else slacks off and gets all the credit. They make my job more difficult because of their lack of actually caring and well that is where I get fully annoyed.

But yes The Netherlands sounds wonderful for so many reasons.

a reply to: mblahnikluver

Another thing I am seeing, the businesses still run and operated by family rather than by shareholders will often tend to be better run.

Oddly enough, husband's is still a family run as big as it is. The key is to find a family that still has principles of wanting to take care of the workers to some degree, and that's not always easy to find.

I said mine doesn't offer benefits for part-time? It doesn't, but it is family owned still. The boss is a real ball-breaker, but the reason I'm still there after 10 years is because he also doesn't ask us to do anything he isn't doing. If there's 10" of snow on the ground and he wants us in? He's there too. Power is out and there's no heat or air? He's there suffering right along with us.

It's his work ethic to do it, and he expects his employees to put in the same. I can't argue with that. It would be different if he wasn't doing what he demanded of us. And they do extend little QoL perks to us.

a reply to: mblahnikluver

I like your attitude. However at this moment your attitude is not being appreciated by your employer.

And you're not helping yourself out at the moment. You need to come to the realization that your employer is not worth the time and effort that you put in.

So it's up to you. You can keep on feeling frustrated. Or you can put in only the effort your employer deserves out of you.

It doesn't make sense to be killing yourself for someone that doesn't appreciate you.

I am a CEO.

I can help you with launching your side business/getting it more off the ground.

Coming to the realization that you will never advance farther than what someone else allows you to do is exactly why I started my own company.

Congrats on your awakening. Now take it all the way.

originally posted by: TonyS
a reply to: mblahnikluver

Frankly, if you are a young person, I would suggest you move to the Netherlands. I found working in the US to be an increasingly demeaning affair for a vairiety of reasons. What really turned me off was the increasing creep factor of the new hires. There's a whole world out there. Try it out!

A dear person I loved/love very much left USA for that very reason to Vietnam.

I miss her dearly.

a reply to: mblahnikluver

Make the move; try it out. At 40, even if it doesn't work, you got time to recover. Maybe you could work for your bf at his place since he owns his own business. Life is short. Make the most of it.

a reply to: SR1TX

Well, maybe you should follow your heart!
Get out now while the getting's good! Make a new life for yourself.

originally posted by: grey580
a reply to: mblahnikluver

I like your attitude. However at this moment your attitude is not being appreciated by your employer.

And you're not helping yourself out at the moment. You need to come to the realization that your employer is not worth the time and effort that you put in.

So it's up to you. You can keep on feeling frustrated. Or you can put in only the effort your employer deserves out of you.

It doesn't make sense to be killing yourself for someone that doesn't appreciate you.

No it doesn't make sense does it?! It is a slim market for jobs here however. I've got my resume online and a friend is going to go over it for me and see if we can update it. The moment I find something I am out of here. I get extremely tired of getting walked on. I don't need constant recognition but some would be nice. It's always what I don't do or should do and I tell my boss all those things would be great IF I A HAD ANOTHER PERSON! Yet I am one person and I am expected to do the work of at least 2-3 people. It IS draining.

originally posted by: SR1TX
I am a CEO.

I can help you with launching your side business/getting it more off the ground.

Coming to the realization that you will never advance farther than what someone else allows you to do is exactly why I started my own company.

Congrats on your awakening. Now take it all the way.

Got any good ideas to raise $3000 for supplies?! That is where I am stuck. I don't have the money myself and people seem to look down on gofundme. I have nothing of value to sell either. I was thinking of making a gofundme to raise the money and if people don't want to send money they can check out my "wish list" on Etsy for supplies and go from there. I am a single mom on one income. I want to do what i enjoy and I love to make things and be creative, especially jewelry! I have all I want to buy up front just no money to do so.

Yes I really want to do my own thing and until then I have to suck it up where I am even though most days I'm ready to lose my mind lol

a reply to: mblahnikluver

I used to work for NILICO a NY subsidiary of American Life Insurance.

I saw that they were pretty good as far as paying their employees a competitive wage and not making them wait eons to get their money.

Insurance is like poison to me. I tip my hat to you for being able to work in that industry.

I really didnt like it. The job was easy an rewarding but the mentality of management was repulsive.

Its like living with fan boys of 80s corporate culture.

originally posted by: mblahnikluver

originally posted by: SR1TX
I am a CEO.

I can help you with launching your side business/getting it more off the ground.

Coming to the realization that you will never advance farther than what someone else allows you to do is exactly why I started my own company.

Congrats on your awakening. Now take it all the way.

Got any good ideas to raise $3000 for supplies?! That is where I am stuck. I don't have the money myself and people seem to look down on gofundme. I have nothing of value to sell either. I was thinking of making a gofundme to raise the money and if people don't want to send money they can check out my "wish list" on Etsy for supplies and go from there. I am a single mom on one income. I want to do what i enjoy and I love to make things and be creative, especially jewelry! I have all I want to buy up front just no money to do so.

Yes I really want to do my own thing and until then I have to suck it up where I am even though most days I'm ready to lose my mind lol

3k Is nothing.

Call them and ask for a vendor credit. Most will set you up instantly. Bigger name brand suppliers may want accounting info etc (they can burn in hell, not happening)

I would also say that if you have access to any other credit, a CC or working type cap loan or payday loan will suffice as well. Just be careful because you say 3 grand in supplies, but you may want to try for just 2 and save some $ for some basic social media marketing like on FB/Instagram. Most importantly for you as Jewelry is a feel/tangible thing that people want to feel good wearing, is make an Instagram/pintrest and have people just take pictures with your jewelry. This will dramatically increase brand awareness and the right influencer can bring you 100s if not 1000s of new orders.

You could also consider what is called drop surfing. Do not actually make your product, as it is custom in nature, until customer orders it. This way you have $ as orders come in. This actually may work better for you at first because you don't have to risk having inventory/supply that will not sell.

Say you have a pic of a necklace, and you know you can make that necklace for $20 and in a few hours time or w/e. Well, post it on your shopify page ($30 a month subscription) and as well on your social media accounts. If you sell it for $50, but it costed you only $10 - $15 to make, well you just made roughly $30 after shipping, but you did not have to buy product until you had the order/cash to do it. That is drop surfing (drop shipping is someone else made it and you just fulfll the order, but often have that product on hand) in a nutshell.

No worries, getting started is the most daunting part of your task. How far you want it to go after it's started, is entirely up to you. I once saw a nutcase looking guy get a deal on sharktank for making Jewelry. Blew me away he got it. So if you want to be a millionaire, just start thinking like one.

originally posted by: NightFlight
a reply to: mblahnikluver

M, you need to read The Peter Principle. This book has helped me deal with some real dickheads through the many jobs I have held. Basically its premise is how people rise in a job to their highest incompetence and how to deal with them.

Heres a link...

Amazon , The Peter Principle

And how to avoid being promoted or shuffled to a position where you no longer have enthusiasm for your work and end up being fired anyway for getting poor performance reviews.

The number of times I've gone for interviews now, where those doing their interviewing just made me want to run out of the interview room.