posted on Jun, 24 2015 @ 12:43 PM
Well this is going to be very crazy so here it is.
My soon to be ex husband and I separated in the middle of January. Our marriage was done long before and we probably never should have gotten married
to begin with but it is what it is.
Well I met someone, not someone new, someone I had known for years and always felt a connection to. It was my best friends brother. His mom and sister
set us up and it was great. I never knew how much we had in common and he made it so easy to be ME around him. I never had that. He got all the little
things I wanted from a partner and didn't judge me. We could communicate and talk like adults without arguing. I am sure the last 10 years of being
friends helped. I wasn't around them for a few years but I still spoke with his sister. His mom always made comments about us dating and belonging
So he and I took things slow, then we backed off and then started seeing each other again but wanted to wait to be serious until my paperwork was
filed. Well I got the paperwork filed out and my ex signed it. When I asked for a divorce my ex came up with the terms for the divorce. He didn't
want it but he knew I wouldn't come back. I had my reasons and nothing he could say or do would change it. I didn't trust him at all and with some
things for me once you break that level of trust I don't give it back. Too much past experience that i just can't do it. He's not a bad person just
for me he wasn't "the one."
Well my friends brother and I got closer after the paperwork was done and that is when things got INSANE. My friend and her mom, who treated me like
family for about 10 yrs, started acting catty towards me and just giving off bad vibes. I saw it when we all went out one night and I said something
to the guy I was seeing and he said they were fine but I SAW it. I felt it. They didn't act the way they use to. Now this family works and lives
together, no big deal. I always knew how close they were but I didn't know how possessive they were of the son. I mean it's just been so insane I
can't even believe what has happened.
Anyway. This guy and I had a great time and would see each other when our schedules permitted, which was maybe once a week! I worked with his sister
and had on and off for years. She would call me her sister in law and say all these things about her brother and i being together but when HE told
them I was the one he wanted in the family and for life THAT'S when the mom and sister changed.
So one day while he and I are out they decide to call my soon to be ex husband!! Yea you read that right! They make up ALL these lies about me and
make me look like i"m some manipulative liar. They acted like they had no idea we were getting divorced and said I never told them, which is a flat
out lie. They knew the WHOLE process! The entire process! I couldn't believe the crap they were saying. I felt so betrayed and hurt more than I ever
have in my life! MY best friend did this to break her brother and I up. Why? Well that's anyones guess but it doesn't take a genius to see they saw
me as a threat in some way. I was going to take him from them, which is ludacris! They have known me for years and know exactly how I am yet in their
minds they made up all kinds of lies to justify their actions and well of course he and I are not together. They caused sooooo much drama it's been a
horrible month. I haven't talked to any of them because the mom and sister know what they did was wrong. I know the brother is clueless to most of
what they have done because I know how they can be. They love keeping him out of the loop of their schemes especially this.
He and were happy and feelings were involved. So much happened and then his own family felt the need to get in the way of two grown adults!! Sure one
could say he doesn't have the cojones to stand up to them but even if he did they would make his life hell so he would rather sacrifice his own
happiness to keep the peace. Sure that bothers me because I would never let anyone dictate who I should be with especially when that person made me so
happy. His own mom and sister told me they have never seen him this happy with someone, ever. That right there is also when things started to change.
He spent more time with me than them. I could see it a mile away!! I just never thought they would be so vindictive and low!
So here is the good part. Now my EX and my ex best friend are talking and want to date. YUP! What PLANET or UNIVERSE am I ON! I just can't even
fathom what is going on. My ex came home last week from overseas to get our son and what does he do? He goes to their house to "talk" to them and
then takes my former friend out to dinner. I'm like WTF! It makes no sense. I'm even lost as to what this whole crap storm is. It's like a crazy
movie script!!!! Oh and my ex is coming Friday to stay so he can see her! Yet I can't see the one I love? What in the hell?!
I know this sounds completely insane but this is just the abridged version. I have had many close friends get upset over this situation because they
know it's such BS. It's utterly disgusting.
Because two grown women can't handle the only male in their house being happy they sabotage it? I know they are family but I didn't realize how much
they rely on him for their OWN happiness. I mean wouldn't you think they want him happy instead of being their *itch? Which sorry as much as I care
for him he IS.
ugh I'm so angry. I opened up to someone for the first time fully in my life and this happens. I feel so hurt and vulnerable. I'm done with
relationships. I know that is the typical jaded response but honestly this is the last person I ever wanted to lose let alone my best friend which is
why I NEVER dated him before. However his own FAMILY set us up and pushed us together, even though he and i were interested and always were so it
wasn't' hard. I dont think they expected us to become so close so fast. I wasnt asking him to live with me or get married. We were happy with OUR
arrangement. OURS not theirs.
I know this is all over the place but i have reached my breaking point. I was happy for once with someone who bared his soul to me. I never had anyone
tell me how they felt about me in the way he did. It was beautiful and sweet and kind. My ex could never tell me anything like that, nor had any other
I finally found someone who gets me and accepts me and he doesn't have the balls to tell his family to back off? WHY is my love like a tragic
Shakespeare novel?! Funny he said we should run away like Romeo and Juliet and just be together so in some ways I know he sees how they are but he
won't disappoint them. I know I should move on and I"m trying but it still hurts. There is so much history there with all of them that it's just
killing me for so many reasons.
Sorry this was all over the place but lately I'm all over the place