a reply to: Biigs
This is wonderful Biigs.
A new type of job, new surroundings, new people, time to let your hand heal.
Don't ever let anyone tell you that depression is a weakness or selfish. And if someone has never been through depression themselves (and I'm not
referring to just feeling "down") then they will never have any true comprehension of what it is like.
When you are in that deep hole and know you can't climb back out just keep telling yourself that it is temporary, that you will eventually come out
of it. You don't know when but you will. Hang on to that. Keep in mind those that love you. Tell yourself over and over that you are deserving of a
good life and good things and happiness. Sometimes all one has is the tiny little branch to hang onto and just being aware that yes you are suffering
and can feel like you have no control - just remember that there are people who love you, people who don't even know you that really do care and love
you, and that you will get better.
Talking to a professional is an excellent way to just let feelings out and to verbalize and bring it out of your own mind. A professional will listen,
not judge and give you coping tools. I have seen counsellors, psychologists and psychiatrists. Personally for me it wasn't until I saw the
psychiatrist who gave me cognitive therapy. Ie: I was always griping about having a bad day. He taught me I was maybe having a bad moment in a whole
day. It's a way of self talk that is really quite amazing. I thought it was hokey and complete nonsense until I realized it's about self talk, a lot
of it. So this does help.
I can't say it's the complete answer as I do believe depression is a chemical brain imbalance. Some people benefit from medication but one has to be
really careful and self aware and do your research and then more research. I can honestly say that medication has been my saving point. However I have
to keep switching as I build up a tolerance and this is extremely hard as you have to wean off, go through the withdrawals and then try something new
and then build up. And unfortunately I don't always see the signs that I am sinking until loved ones bring it up. Medication is a personal choice and
I am not pushing it but I know there are people still here with us because they decided to try it. It is a personal choice but I do believe you have
to know exactly what you're taking and be responsible. And keep close tabs with your doctor if you go this route.
Diet is key as is exercise. I find walking tremendously helpful - it helps get the cobwebs out, I commune with Jesus as I walk and I work things out.
I don't obsess which is so easy to do when one simply sits about. Smelling fresh air, watching nature, getting amongst wild grass or trees or being
near water - it is so amazing for one's spirit. Try to stay away from a sugar diet and processed carbs and processed foods. Stay away from anything
that has corn syrup in it. I find oolong tea to be refreshing as well as very comforting. It has a very rich flavour.
I am a Christian and by having a personal relationship with Jesus - I do believe He is my best friend and I talk and talk and talk. I read the Bible
and always feel comforted after. In most Bibles there is, at the front/back, a list of emotions that point to various verses to help one cope with
those feelings. This may be helpful.
I have tried St. John's Wort, Valerian and various other natural herbs. Holy Basil is amazing - it also helps with anxiety. Usually anxiety goes hand
in hand with depression. It just calms you down and makes you feel at peace. Works almost instantly. Somewhat pricey though.
Surround yourself with positive and loving people. Nothing brings me down faster than someone who hates life or who is spiteful or jealous of others.
Read and watch happy type movies.
Always remember your fellow man as we can always uplift others and help them. I believe this is what we're here for, to love one another and not as a
job or a rule but because there are others out there who are suffering inside as much as the next person. This will also help you get outside of your
Ditch the ex-girfriend. She doesn't know what love is and you deserve better. Be glad (I know it hurts and you still have feelings for her) she
showed her true colors. There is someone so amazing out there - someone who will want to share her life with you because she wants you in it and
thinks you are so incredible that she can't think of anyone else but you.
Hang in there. Hope some of this helps. I'm here for you if you ever need to talk.