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originally posted by: skunkape23
a reply to: Sinter Klaas
Let the child pursue their interests. Give them encouragement to be themselves. I am a musician and painter. I had to grow up with a dad who looked down on me for being interested in, according to his view, "faggot sh#t." We don't get along.
originally posted by: Scotscorps84
Im not the best dad, or the best person in the world. I've let my kids down a whole lot in the past and as much as I try I will again in the future.
I'm separated from their mother so I feel I should treat them to respect her and other women. (even though we have our differences and went through alot of drama in front of my kids)
My eldest is disabled and has behavioral problems, so I guess i have to find the balance between being a buddy and a disciplinarian. I always feel bad, because everyone else in the family is very lenient on him, where as I am hard as hell when he needs it. I they both understand when they are older I'm hard because I'm the only adult in their life trying to implement a bit of structure and discipline and speak to them about right/wrong and morals.
I've been through alot from childhood to now, and it pains me to say so have they but i feel I'm a great ally to have going into the world seeing as ive seen a lot and dealt with alot of what they have been through too.
I want to raise them to be brave, respectful young men that everyone can be proud of.
most of all they deserve love, guidance and when needed to be put in their place
originally posted by: NoNameNeeded
I'm currently even experiencing these childhood taught patterns as nearing impossible to change. I've seriously taken the nature vs nurture debate to heart lately, as I feel it really applies in my case.
originally posted by: Sinter Klaas
Hello ATS. I'm looking for more ideas on the things a father should be giving his children.
What does a kid deserve, what should he get without a doubt, and which every day life things your father did for you as a kid ?
My father was never around and I don't really get beyond the point that he should at least be around.
Can you help me broaden my views on what it takes to be a father, one that is determined to do anything for his kids to have the best father he can be ?
Thank you in advance ?