a reply to: Vilhelm
Listening. They ramble too much before getting to any meat. Kind of shocking that Ted Kacyznski is the podcaster's hero. Whereas Kaczynsi's
manifesto was pretty interesting and he did raise some solid points, one should never forget that he killed people and viewed those who were not
targets but still injured by his bombs were similar to casualties of war. Kaczysnski was insane, period. Agreed that Rodger's writing is a
biography or memoir--it is NOT a manifesto as it's being called.
One of their points that is contradictory in the podcast is when they bring up Rodgers' stepmother and his complaint about being made to do work
around the house because they had a nanny for that. They remark on the fact that he doesn't feel like he needs to do chores and hated his stepmother
to the point of wanting to kill her for forcing him to do work around the house. Yet, they blame the parents for spoiling Rodgers. However, telling
a kid to do work around the house isn't spoiling a kid and clearly his stepmother, presumably with the support of his father, demanded that. How is
that spoiling? This is actually a subject that I have direct experience with that is outside of the norm.
Another point about that--in a way, his resentment for having to do chores is actually rather normal for a teen--especially when there is hired help
in the home. I know this from experience as my children and I lived with my father in his 3 story mansion for a bit where we had maids coming into
the home every week. Both of my children felt that, because we had maids, they did not need to pick up their rooms or up after themselves wherever
they had been playing inside the home. It took about a month and a half plus an order to the maids not to do my children's rooms or bathrooms. That
got the point across but it was a constant struggle. What I'm saying is that, when you have that kind of scenario, kids tend to presume things in
order to avoid doing any form of work. Now that we're living in our own home without maid service, my kids are quick to assist around the house with
the minimum of grumbling. The difference? The lack of household hired help. However, it took about a year for them to understand their actual
position in the world due to the fact that we lived in a mansion for a year and a half with maid service. That's not abnormal for a child growing up
in a wealthier environment where a family has both money and power. How families deal with it varies but really, if Rodgers was just flat out
spoiled by his parents, then would his stepmother even have demanded he do chores at all?
What makes that specific thing with Rodgers abnormal is his hatred towards his stepmother for it to the point of wanting her dead. That is the
whacked out portion. Whereas his disdain and self conflation are slightly typical for kids in that setting, he was that to the nth degree combined
with a homicidal tendencies. That's narcissism and quite frankly, his parents could've been making him clean the toilets and he would've still
been the same way. It's not necessarily what they did with him that created his sense of self import--it was the environment, itself. As in the
case of my children, any kid being stuck in that environment is going to go through that. Both of my kids are very well-adjusted, charitable, kind
and empathetic according to every staff member at their schools but would they have turned out the same way if they had spent the last 6 years still
in my dad's mansion with maids? I kind of think not no matter what we said or did.
My parents were actually very cautious in raising my sister and I to avoid this conflation. It's one of the rare things that I'll say that they did
a good job in. I still sometimes get shocked by how much they duped us, lol, but any time we questioned something, we were told that we were
"decidedly middle class". Middle class teens wear Dior to school, don't ya know? lol