reply to post by oktopus
I've not watched the video as I don't usually watch such things, however I liked the topic of your thread.
Form me this is one of the greatest truths I've come to understand. I have realised over the years that I was denying my imperfections, not wanting
to admit them - not even realising in many cases that I was imperfect.
I came to look at it like this: my greatest imperfection is denying some of my feelings - many bad feelings. If I felt angry - I'd tell myself I
shouldn't act that way, 'it's not being friendly', 'no one likes a person who's angry', and so on. So I'd use my mind to stop myself being
Then I realised that if I'm not allowing myself to have my anger, as it is
what I am feeling, then I'm disrespecting myself. And by
disrespecting myself, I'm being untrue - or, imperfect.
I started my spiritual quest trying to find ways to override and cancel out all that I believed were my imperfections, which came down to just trying
to find other ways to block out all the bad feelings I was afraid of feeling. I tried to use my mind to make myself be a better person - more loving,
all by blocking out yet more feelings.
And then I understood I was going the wrong way. Okay - STOP! Go back the other way: start to accept my imperfections, all my bad feelings. Which
I'm still doing. And I've come to understand that by accepting all my yuk I feel much better about myself. I am not perfect - and that's okay.
So my self-acceptance is growing, showing me the truth of your statement.
So now my way to become perfect is to fully embrace my imperfections, which I do by paying attention to my bad feelings. When I feel bad, I try to
stay with the bad feeling, talking about how bad I feel to my wife, and longing for the truth my bad feelings are trying to show me. Which ends up
being the truth of why I'm imperfect, because our imperfections make us feel bad. So my feelings are helping me see what's wrong in me, and why;
and when the truth has come to light, then that bit of me that was wrong, becomes right. So it's all done with my feelings, instead of how I used to
believe it was by trying to apply my mind to make myself right.