Why I hate valentines day

Someone had to do it. So here it is:

I hate valentines day. I always have. When you are single (or even worse, single and getting over someone or recently broken up with someone you cared about) it is a terrible holiday. Every commercial makes you cringe. Every little pink heart shaped piece of merchandise makes you want to puke. It's horrendous, it's exclusionary, and it's insensitive.

But I'm not single atm, and I still hate valentines day (and always have). While I'm certainly cheap, I have no problem spending money on my significant other. No, that's not the problem that I have with valentines day. The problem I have with valentines day is that a bunch of fat slob CEO's band together every year to get even fatter off the hard earned dollars of gullible, needy, emotionally vapid little t#&*s.

Hear me out here.

When you are the man in a heterosexual relationship, you are expected to bend over backwards for your girlfriend or wife every February 14th. Normally, your significant other doesn't bother to do the same for you. NO NO NO. YOU are on the hook, and it's YOUR balls if you don't one up your lady's best friends boyfriend. You'll be hearing about it for MONTHS if not YEARS if Joe Schmuck bought your lady's girlfriend a yacht for valentines day. But what do you get? Physical gratification if you're lucky.

But that is just one of the many superficial reasons I hate valentines day (besides the fact it is a corporate holiday and cheapens love to some sort of financial obligation once a year). The REAL reason I hate valentines day is because it presupposes that you can be a total asshole the other 364 days of the year, as long as you show up for the game on some day that some jackass determined to be the one day of the year that you should be a good boyfriend or husband.

Luckily, I have a partner who shares my views on this most vacuous holiday. We both agree that a relationship should be about how you treat your partner the OTHER 364 days of the year. I grew up being taught these values by my parents. My dad would bring my mom flowers for no reason all the time. He'd get me to help him make her breakfast in bed for no reason, and he would take her out for dinner occasionally for no reason at all. Having learned from him, I do the same for my significant other.

I remember once buying my girlfriend a dozen roses in the middle of July because the mood struck me. Arriving at the checkout, the clerk (a male) not so comically quipped: "Uh oh... what did YOU do?"

REALLY!? No. I did not do anything wrong. I felt like buying my girlfriend flowers for no reason BECAUSE THAT IS WHAT A GOOD MAN DOES.

I don't need one day out of the year to remind me not to be a dick, and I resent the social stigma that comes with valentines day and practically being forced into this cultural circle jerk of money, shallow gestures of "romance", and expectations. If I am forced to be "romantic" at a specific time or date, it loses all meaning. It becomes the sad process of simply going through the motions because I "have to".

#$*! valentines day.

if you dont get the day off.. its not a holiday.
thats my rant

This! This here, is why I'm glad I'm gay. I hate "holidays" like this.

okamitengu
if you dont get the day off.. its not a holiday.
thats my rant

But you might get off on the day.

I dunno. it's all a bit strange.

reply to post by kunundrum


Gay means you dont love someone?

Man.. I thought it was all dancing shoes and clean clothes.. and all that prohibitive hygene...



Cheer up little guy.

sn0rch

okamitengu
if you dont get the day off.. its not a holiday.
thats my rant

But you might get off on the day.

I dunno. it's all a bit strange.

LMAO! That is hilarious.

What is this Valentines Day people speak of and what day is it on

unb3k44n7
What is this Valentines Day people speak of and what day is it on

Go check out the short stories forum. It's recently been flooded with terrible poetry and should offer you a few leads as to where you should look next in your research.

reply to post by DeadSeraph


LOL. Oh. I see now! That is some lovely poetry. You don't like?

(failed sarcasm in last post. Apparently I'm a very misunderstood person)

Well, I think it is better than most holidays for me at least, it is the only one that doesn't have bad memories attached. So I am going to party it up and celebrate like it is the biggest holiday of the year.

reply to post by unb3k44n7


I think poetry is generally better left to poets. I'm also unsure why so many people are under the impression that poetry has to rhyme. That's all I'll say about it.

ETA: Your sarcasm was noticed. I just felt like taking a jab at all the horrible valentines day poetry that has surfaced lately.

reply to post by sn0rch


no, it means I don't buy into the roses and candy $h!t

reply to post by calstorm


You have bad Halloween memories?

reply to post by VaultBoy


My extremely religious grandparents never allowed me to celebrate. By the time I no longer lived with them I was to old to really celebrate, and i have never had the opportunity to go to adult parties. So I would say bad memories, just bitter about it.

reply to post by DeadSeraph

The Onion came out with this write-up re Valentine's Day, which is best summed up by an 'interviewee' (I know; it's -satire-)
www.theonion.com...
“Look, I’m gonna cut the # here: I’ve basically funneled all my hopes for the future into this one night in which my boyfriend must achieve perfection, or else we’re through,”

I would actually (were I to be boyfriended) EXPECT chocolates, champaign, and roses. OR ELSE.

reply to post by DeadSeraph


If you can be with the one you love, love yourself. If you love yourself, you will have confidence and that always gets the ladies. Do not think you deserve to be alone because you will be alone. I like valentines day because it lets you express your love in a time when there is no time. Let them enjoy it.

DeadSeraph
Someone had to do it. So here it is:

I hate valentines day. I always have. When you are single (or even worse, single and getting over someone or recently broken up with someone you cared about) it is a terrible holiday. Every commercial makes you cringe. Every little pink heart shaped piece of merchandise makes you want to puke. It's horrendous, it's exclusionary, and it's insensitive.

But I'm not single atm, and I still hate valentines day (and always have). While I'm certainly cheap, I have no problem spending money on my significant other. No, that's not the problem that I have with valentines day. The problem I have with valentines day is that a bunch of fat slob CEO's band together every year to get even fatter off the hard earned dollars of gullible, needy, emotionally vapid little t#&*s.

Hear me out here.

When you are the man in a heterosexual relationship, you are expected to bend over backwards for your girlfriend or wife every February 14th. Normally, your significant other doesn't bother to do the same for you. NO NO NO. YOU are on the hook, and it's YOUR balls if you don't one up your lady's best friends boyfriend. You'll be hearing about it for MONTHS if not YEARS if Joe Schmuck bought your lady's girlfriend a yacht for valentines day. But what do you get? Physical gratification if you're lucky.

But that is just one of the many superficial reasons I hate valentines day (besides the fact it is a corporate holiday and cheapens love to some sort of financial obligation once a year). The REAL reason I hate valentines day is because it presupposes that you can be a total asshole the other 364 days of the year, as long as you show up for the game on some day that some jackass determined to be the one day of the year that you should be a good boyfriend or husband.

Luckily, I have a partner who shares my views on this most vacuous holiday. We both agree that a relationship should be about how you treat your partner the OTHER 364 days of the year. I grew up being taught these values by my parents. My dad would bring my mom flowers for no reason all the time. He'd get me to help him make her breakfast in bed for no reason, and he would take her out for dinner occasionally for no reason at all. Having learned from him, I do the same for my significant other.

I remember once buying my girlfriend a dozen roses in the middle of July because the mood struck me. Arriving at the checkout, the clerk (a male) not so comically quipped: "Uh oh... what did YOU do?"

REALLY!? No. I did not do anything wrong. I felt like buying my girlfriend flowers for no reason BECAUSE THAT IS WHAT A GOOD MAN DOES.

I don't need one day out of the year to remind me not to be a dick, and I resent the social stigma that comes with valentines day and practically being forced into this cultural circle jerk of money, shallow gestures of "romance", and expectations. If I am forced to be "romantic" at a specific time or date, it loses all meaning. It becomes the sad process of simply going through the motions because I "have to".

#$*! valentines day.

edit on 13-2-2014 by DeadSeraph because: (no reason given)

Word.


I too, am a hater. I don't hate love, just the commercialism and consumerism that this particular day means. It isn't even a holiday. No, not really. Don't even call it Valentines Day. Call it... Buy For Me or You Don't Love Me Day. ?

It is not that I do not feel tender towards a person. But if I can't show them spontaneously, singling out one day of the year to shower them with meaningless hearts and flowers means what really? That I recognize if I don't send you a Valentine of some monetary value, I'm a loveless person? I'm ranting. But glad to see one less sheeple in regards to the big "Love" day. We should riot to abolish it. Force people to love everyday, and in spontaneous ways. Yeah.

reply to post by StarlightNine


I'm glad you were able to relate to the real message I was trying to convey. Cheers!

DeadSeraph
reply to post by unb3k44n7

 

I think poetry is generally better left to poets. I'm also unsure why so many people are under the impression that poetry has to rhyme. That's all I'll say about it.

I really do think it is a leftover ingrain from either High School or College Lit.
I swear, if Shakespeare or Poe or any of the old Masters didn't write it, I don't want to see it, hear it, or suffer it.
If that sounds harsh it is because people trying to poetry rhyme usually is harsh, as it is forced from some belief one has, that it is what poetry is.

More Sexton, Amichai, Jeffrey McDaniel, and Li-Young Lee in the classrooms please. Please.