posted on Sep, 11 2013 @ 11:11 PM
reply to post by wildtimes
Dear wildtimes,
Good to see you again, and I agree with you that I really like Pope Francis.
You'll note that it will be "open for discussion." For me, that means there are two sides to the question (or more). Haave you considered the
down sides? I certainly don't know them all, and I don't have a strong opinion on the question, but it wouldn't have been a discipline for this
long without any reason at all.
The problem that jumps out to me is divided loyalties. Priests are on call 24/7 whether their wife is in the hospital, their kid has a soccer game,
or their mother-in-law is throwing a family get together. Christmas with family? If he can slide it in.
What happens when after several years his wife says "You love the Church more than you love me. You'd better quit."
What happens when he gets sent to some remote village in the middle of Africa for several years? Does he leave his wife and kids at home alone? What
about a vow of poverty? And, I can assure you, that many times a priest will get out of bed at 2 or 3 in the morning, moved to spend an hour in
prayer by himself. Isn't that a little bit trickier when the wife says, "Where are you going, come back to bed?"
A Priest will listen to hundreds of couples, if not thousands, with family difficulties. He will have his own experience in his family plus some
seminary training. I don't want him to be a family counsellor. I want him to tell me about the Church's positions, talk about my prayer life, and
refer me to a professional if that is what's needed. The Church is his family.
The benefits? I don't see many right now. The problems? I see some big ones. But, as the pope has said, Ok, let's talk about it.
With respect,
Charles1952