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Although truthfulness is essential for good human relationships and personal integrity, it is often abandoned in pursuit of other life priorities.
Indeed, there may be a perception in many key areas of contemporary life—law, business, politics, among others—that expecting honesty on a regular basis is a naïve and foolish attitude, a “loser’s” way of operating. Such a perception is practically a mandate for personal dishonesty and a concession to interpersonal distrust. When we no longer assume that those who communicate with us are at least trying to tell the truth, we give up on them as trustworthy persons and deal with them only in a strictly instrumental manner. The bounds of mutual moral obligation dissolve, and the laws of the jungle reemerge.
Honesty has ceased to be seen as a virtue, and with its decline “our society risks a future of moral numbness,” writes William Damon in Defining Ideas, a journal published by the Hoover Institution at Harvard University. Damon is well aware that the little deception is sometimes morally justifiable, but he posits that “a basic intent to be truthful, along with an assumption that people can be generally taken at their word, is required for all sustained civilized dealings.”
Originally posted by soficrow
How about you? ...Do you think it's more important to "play the game"? To win and succeed by worldly standards, rather than live with old-fashioned integrity, and without a lot of toys and status-making stuff?
“a basic intent to be truthful, along with an assumption that people can be generally taken at their word, is required for all sustained civilized dealings.”
Originally posted by wildtimes
reply to post by soficrow
“a basic intent to be truthful, along with an assumption that people can be generally taken at their word, is required for all sustained civilized dealings.”
All my life I have been trustworthy,
and trusting....
and have been burned. Scarred. Yet, I maintain my honesty. Thanks for posting this, soficrow. Well worth the read, and timely in today's chaos of humanity. I'm finding it easier to accept rejection based on standing up for my principles. Rejection is never "comfortable", but it's tolerable, and even preferable, to aligning with anything that devalues dignity.
Once I discover a person has lied (after giving them the benefit of the doubt, which is my natural stance) or behaved in a harmful way, I never again can trust them. I'd rather stand alone than be surrounded by frauds.
I think if everyone were taught how to recognize their own inner conflicts, and communicate clearly why they are acting as they are, it would be a more peaceful planet. Sadly, too few people have insight, or even the ability to recognize how they are feeling, and even fewer are adept at communicating it with language.
Emotions can be expressed without acting out. Why is it not a universal skill? On the other hand, it's one of life's more curious mysteries....trying to figure out what makes people tick...how they came to be where they are....and how they are...
Perhaps the pace at which we are expected to live in the Western "business world" and "society", juggling balls while spinning plates on top of poles and hula-hooping at the same time....is the problem.
Breathe. Stop. Reflect. Muse. Take your time. Consider. Get off the hamster wheel.
...I think if everyone were taught how to recognize their own inner conflicts, and communicate clearly why they are acting as they are, it would be a more peaceful planet. Sadly, too few people have insight, or even the ability to recognize how they are feeling, and even fewer are adept at communicating it with language. ...