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Originally posted by Talltexxxan
Hello my ATS brothers and Sisters
I am a step father of a beautiful 4 year old boy. I started dating his mother (now my wife) since he was 2. He knows I am not his dad. He doesnt call me dad, he calls me by my first name which I am fine with. I am an advocate of tough love. He doesnt get away with much, but thats the way I was raised and I feel that method of parenting has made me the man I am today. Which I thank my parents greatly for.
His father hates my guts due mostly to he is still in love with my wife. And he hates that I am raising his son. He has the normal joint custody of the boy, every other weekend and during the summers. Without a doubt he will at some point tell the boy that he doesn't have to listen to me, as I am not his father.
So my question is, How do I deal with the dreaded come back of "Your not my dad!!!".
edit on 26-3-2012 by Talltexxxan because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by nixie_nox
If his father is still in the picture, why do you think it is your responsiblity to raise him as a son?
Let his parents do it.
I would be pissed too if I was the father.edit on 27-3-2012 by nixie_nox because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by Talltexxxan
I am the one that will be incharge of showing him that there is more to life than what his bio father can show him.
That's what his mother should be doing. I really believe you are over-stepping your boundaries as a step parent. Your relationship with the child should be more like that of a big brother.
That's what his mother should be doing. I really believe you are over-stepping your boundaries as a step parent. Your relationship with the child should be more like that of a big brother.
Originally posted by nixie_nox
If his father is still in the picture, why do you think it is your responsiblity to raise him as a son?
Let his parents do it.
I would be pissed too if I was the father.