posted on Nov, 29 2011 @ 03:43 PM
So, I’m laying it all on the line for you. It may sound whiny, and I know I'm actually one of the lucky ones, but here goes anyway.
I am a married man with 2 kids. I have a decent career making $46k per year. My wife makes $27k. My kids are 5 and 4 years old, so we either have
to pay for early pre-school or daycare. Turns out pre-kindergarten is the cheaper alternative at the local elementary school.
I have a new Jeep with a payment of $590 per month. I have a motorcycle that is paid for and a pickup that is paid for. I have to insure all 3. I
also have health insurance and life insurance for every member of the family, but my rates are very, very good through my employer.
My wife and I have cell phones, 700 minutes per month shared and unlimited data. Our phones are Droid 1’s, they are almost 2 years old now, we
could slightly lower the bill if we gave up the internet, but we’re talking less than $50 per month savings.
We have cable and cable internet in a package deal, really no way to lower the bill without giving it up completely.
My utility company is a co-op and the rates are lower than in the city. I have a septic tank (gray water system), a well, and we use a fireplace and
propane. The propane averages about $1000 per year, I cut wood myself, and so only the electric is left to pay monthly.
I have 1 Credit Card with a $1500 limit. Anytime they try to raise the limit, we lower it back down to $1500. We pay it halfway off each month, but
it usually creeps back up to be almost maxed.
We eat at home a little more than half the time. The kids eat school lunches. We buy food in bulk to save money, and also as part of our survival
preps.
My wife and I haven’t bought any new clothes in years. I get my blue jeans patched, my work slacks repaired by a seamstress. At holiday time or
birthdays, we might buy each other 1 or 2 items that are high quality, and they tend to be stylish and last longer that way.
We do have a pretty nice house, about 2600 sq ft, 3 bedroom 2 ½ bath, a couple of acre yard, and a pool. But, we only owe $200k on it. It was
bought at a bank auction and we fixed it up ourselves. Our house payment is about the same as average rent for a 3/2 ranch style home in this area.
If we downgraded to an apartment we would give up a whole lot and only save about $300 per month.
So, here is my dilemma. My bills almost exactly match our combined income after taxes and insurance. And that is before putting gas in the cars or
buying groceries! There isn’t any chance of getting a raise anytime soon (government work). I had a second job, but I was missing a lot of
weekends with the family, and the business was cutting back, so we parted ways amicably. I could trim the fat everywhere possible, and it would save
me up to about $500 per month, but it would mean giving up cell phones, cable, internet, and it would still just cover gas and groceries.
Maybe we shouldn’t have traded the Toyota for the Jeep, but the payments were about the same, the insurance actually went down a little, and since
our family is spread all over the place, we have to have at least 1 newer car for travelling a couple of times per year. Plus, now that we have it,
there is really no way out of it for a couple of years until it is paid down some and sellable.
We are thoroughly trapped into this situation. We live comfortably, but I don’t see any light at the end of the tunnel. Bills are only going to go
up, the kids will start needing more things for school, our stuff is aging and will need replaced. I have student loans in deferment, and eventually
I’ll have to start paying on those.
You would think, a two-income family, making over $70k per year and trying to live below their means would have a little money to put toward
retirement, or to buy something nice every now and then, or go out to dinner together, but it just isn’t the case.
The Lord does provide from time to time when I pray about it. We were in danger of bouncing a check this week, and all of a sudden a cashback reward
check from the credit card came in the mail. We’ll probably get a little bit of tax return money next month. Every now and then I’m asked to do
an odd job, or work on someone’s car, and it provides that little bump that we need to get through a month. BUT THIS ISN’T THE AMERICAN DREAM!
I know I’m lucky compared to an awful lot of folks. I am working hard to maintain a pretty decent life, but it sure doesn’t feel lucky on days
like today. I’m more than willing to downsize, cutback, live frugal, but nickels and dimes don’t add up very fast, and the things we’d have to
give up would make a large impact on my wife and kids. I have to decide what is worth cutting, and what isn't worth it.
Where is the light? What to do next? I can’t go on a Dave Ramsay plan, these are all recurring bills. I don’t have consumer debt, I just have
living expenses. Do I just need a 30 year plan of living this way and then live off Social Security in the end? Is that really how this all plays
out nowadays?