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So I think the only true value of any individual is how much they are themselves as opposed to what they think they should be. To the point, why does a woman over 40 have to be "sexy" in any fashion, or attractive? And why should anyone be pressed to see them that way for any reason? What's wrong with her being a "hag"?
... And when we do apply them to ourselves, we're often brutal and cruel, making it all the less desirable...
Originally posted by Spiramirabilis
Traveler - you could have spared people a lot of my rambling if you'd showed up here 2 days ago :-)
... And when we do apply them to ourselves, we're often brutal and cruel, making it all the less desirable...
just wanted to repeat it - because maybe this is the truest part? how we look at and treat ourselves
why do you gots to go and do that, Astyanax?
OK - cool - I can live with that
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Originally posted by Spiramirabilis
Why do we wonder how important the old girl monkeys are - what's the point?
why don't we just shut up and survive - like all the other critters?
Because to someone who believes in God, values come from God, and there's an end to argument.
Yes, so could Torquemada, Pol Pot, Jeffrey Dahmer and others of that ilk. It's exactly what they did.
'Value is whatever I say it is' won't wash, I'm afraid. If the answer were that easy, why should I have bothered to ask the question?
We devise moralities and impose them.
Okay, enough pussyfooting. Time to get serious.
I suppose it's important if you're an wise old girl monkey who is having trouble getting used to the idea that, as far as Nature is concerned, she has outlived her usefulness.
However, this is a mere special case of a much more general difficulty, which arises from the fact that we are the only creatures that know we must die
You do realize, don't you, that that is all this thread is about - all it was ever about?
but that doesn't mean we aren't making this up as we go along - it's just that we make it up in ways that most of us agree to - that work for most of us - so that all seems right with the world
a lot of it is arbitrary from my point of view - things that are considered givens can change - just because we decided - on a whim
Originally posted by Spiramirabilis
it's never really the end of the argument
are there answers to these questions?
that doesn't mean we aren't making this up as we go along - it's just that we make it up in ways that most of us agree to - that work for most of us - so that all seems right with the world
arbitrary from my point of view
why do we wonder about any of it?
I think maybe it's more about dying alone
Originally posted by seagrass
Our values come from our animal instincts? If that were true, we would all value the same things and we don't.
Personality, born or made... determines the desires that give things their value.
Intellectually we value, emotionally we value, spiritually we value (those things you can't seem to put into words).
The crone in her last days may value life more knowing it is coming to a close.
Originally posted by Astyanax
We have a lot of instincts. Are they all equally developed in everyone?
Instincts are inherent, they are stereotypical in that we all have the same ones. Fight or flight, survival, hunt and gather. etc. Just like animal species have 'certain' instincts they are born with. No, each animal may differ in its ability to respond naturally to them, but they are born with them. Just like personality. We are born with a personality as WELL as instincts. How many babies do you see who act the same straight out of the womb? Personality determines what we pay attention to. If it was an instinct, all children would naturally pay attention to the same things out of that instinct. They don't. How can you justify the statement that all behavior is instinctual?
Children have no sum of behavior to create a personality yet, straight out of the womb. And yet they are born different. Different temperments that determine behavior. Nature and nurture play a part. Instincts are only part of nature, but can be built upon by desire, interest, experience, attention.
What determines the desire, interest, etc.. is the personality.
Yes, indeed. As I said earlier, it is we who create values.
if we create values, and it is by instinct, then animals can create values.
It is the values of youth that perpetuate that lack of peace with self. Our society tells us what is expected of youth. There are very little expectations in old age. Therefore, there is freedom.
That would be a waste of time and a terrible pity. One should learn the value of life at an early age. And to be fair, most people do.
*Together, of course, with personal history (experience) and the exigencies of the moment.
Originally posted by seagrass
Instincts are inherent, they are stereotypical in that we all have the same ones.
Instincts are by definition inherent. Just like personality.
How many babies do you see who act the same straight out of the womb?
How can you justify the statement that all behavior is instinctual?
It is the values of youth that perpetuate that lack of peace with self. Our society tells us what is expected of youth. There are very little expectations in old age. Therefore, there is freedom.
Originally posted by Astyanax
I believe I said so, in the mentioning of different species and different abilities to perform them.. Different desires to express them. Some are more shy some more aggressive due to personality compounding instinct.
But not to the same degree. You only need eyes in your head to see that.
Personality is inherent? You're a genetic determinist all of a sudden?
I am a mother, who had two different children, with two different personalities from birth onward. Yes, personality is inherent. Our ancestors knew that, and then astrology was born.
I see you haven't paid attention to children. If you decide straight out of the womb is the first hour or two of life then I can except that. Then I will add that they have different personalities straight out of the womb and continue to have throughout the rest of their lives.
All of them, except the brain-damaged ones, react pretty much the same. 'Straight from the womb' means within the first hour or two of life, no more.
I don't need your links or lifetime of reading and thinking to tell me that personality is determined by instincts, because I don't believe that. I have no idea what society you live in, but in my society the old are also powerful and respected, but not by all. I would agree that no society I am aware of has created values that serve us in all ways. And I would agree that values have led us all back and forth for centuries trying to find what works. So far, from what I have found, certain values seem to work for some, but not for others. Probably because of the personality and its desires. To hold one back with values that do not serve them can make them act out in ways that are worse than the original idea of the value as it was intended.
I don't live in your society. In my society the old are powerful and respected. The young have only duties. Sadly, my society has more or less fallen apart, indicating that its values are no better at preserving life, love and liberty than those of your society.
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if we create values, and it is by instinct, then animals can create values.
Thus spoke St. Alia-of-the-Knife: "The Reverend Mother must combine the seductive wiles of a courtesan with the untouchable majesty of a virgin goddess, holding those attributes in tension so long as the powers of her youth endure. For when youth and beauty have gone, she will find that the place-between, once occupied by tension, has become a wellspring of cunning and resourcefulness.
-Frank Herbert, Dune, quote-within-a-quote, page 22.