He only dates pretty white people.

Originally posted by Paresthesia
Oh, sorry. That was my bad. I didn't mean to stereotype all white people as being prejudiced; I meant people who discriminate in general.

I guess you're right.

Perhaps it's for the better.

No im sorry but it's not prejudiced at all. Certain people have certain taste its like telling you to listen to music that you aren't into and if you make a negative comment about it I give you a label, thast just ridiculous.
Maybe he just likes you as a friend or maybe he see's that if he actuallly had a relationship with you he thinks you would be a bit controlling and demanding. (sorry but thats how you look to me in this topic)

I dont pretend to know the situation but I think some people get hung up on possible culture gaps.

I don't really have a single racial prefence- I like different things about a lot of different groups. (I am a big fan of pretty, but I've noticed that there's always something pretty about someone you genuinely like- usually something most people never notice).

Even still, I do have some reservations about getting involved with certain cultures. Mexican girls are great, I have no problem with them, but I would not date most Mexican girls because their culture tends to embrace catholocism, which clashes pretty heavily with my own philosophy, because it is not uncommon for them to speak Spanish among friends and family (and I do not like being left out of the loop like that during a gathering), and for other similar reasons.

I guess it's just one of those things.

You should introduce this guy to Colin Powell though... he's pretty white. lol

I sympathise with your situation but really it's just a part of life and it'll probably happen again at some point even though you are pretty and intelligent. The trick is to tell yourself it's his loss, whether he comes around to the idea or not is irrelevent, it's about handling rejection and not basing your self worth on what another individuals opinion of you is.

People can't really help who they're attracted to, that can change over time but we can't force it. I'm a red headed male, now I bet there are a fair percentage of posters who've been sympathising and calling him a shallow jerk who wouldn't dream of dating a bloke like me. It's a double standard, it sucks but it's reality. Find the people worth investing your time and emotions on, the ones who recipricate the feeling.

Par, a few possible points you may not have thought of.

1) You say you have clearly shown you like him as more than a friend, clear to you, but maybe not clear to him...no really....some of us guys need the proverbial brick to hit us in the head.

2) He may see you as a best friend, not a woman. Does he treat you like all his guy friends???

3) Have YOU gone out with other guys and what was HIS reaction???

4) You say you are Asian, is he??? Is there some level of attractiveness white women have over Asian to him??
This is the same way as some white guys are very attracted to Asian women

Lastly, forgive me for even being horrible enough to say it, but maybe he does not find you attractive. One need not be good looking to be a friend, even a best friend.

For what it's worth, I feel your pain and my heart breaks for you.

Monsoon has some good points.

I do recall a thread you made before, about how you have the habit of tricking guys to like you, then cruelly dismissing them.

Perhaps it is a case of karma, mm?

Originally posted by ZeddicusZulZorander

Originally posted by Kacen
If she insisted, I might give in. But in reality I'm extremely shy about sex, and would also be afraid of getting her pregnant. I also respect women too much...I'm a really weird male in all seriousness. I don't even like porn, I like softcore tasteful stuff.

Your first sentence shows you fail the "friend" litmus test.

Men have friends, but yet will sleep with them no problem proving they are attracited to their friend. Women don't sleep with friends, because women are friends with guys their not attracted to physically. See how it all works?

As for this whole rant Paresthesia, I'm glad you're on track and figured out more of what you want.

I back Zed on this one 100%...Guys can't be friends with girls they want to shag. All you need to do is use him for sex. Just tell him you want to shagg him and nothing more..be firm about no strings. See his reaction. If he's like o.k. then you need to add some fuel to the fire. If he's got a best friend then you need to advert ALL of your attion to his friend....Do you get what direction I'm setting up here? My thinking is if he thinks you just want to have sex then you can spike his emotional reaction by letting him think that you just want to hook up. If he's like any normal guy he's going to take that bait. Then by adverting yourself to a close friend of his might be able to gather some emotional reaction to gauge where his intrest is for you. Some times guys like the big game hunt. If you set yourself up to be the prize prey then you might bring out his true insticts for you. If he has no intrest in this whole game then your S.O.L. just chalk him up as a friend you say hi and bye to. Going back to what Zed said