a reply to: Vroomfondel
You is what you is
Please talk to an english teacher about this.
"You are what you are"
However, you are NOT a gender.
I don't know why people obsess so much about temporary, and thus illusory things. Even _IF_ (and it's a big IF) we could somehow accept / assume /
prove that the physical body is a part of us, it would still be the LEAST important part of us (and most temporary).
But it isn't. It's as much 'part of us' as our car or our house is 'part of us'. It'd be just ridiculous to obsess about 'car identity' or 'car model
identity' (although sadly not unheard of) as it is to obsess about any 'body-based' identity - or ANY temporary, artificial or materialism-based, and
thus fake 'identity'.
There's no such thing as someone being a gender. Thus any 'gender identity' is false, whether that identity has to do with the physical body they're
in or not.
Logically thinking, there's nothing wrong with internally experiencing yourself as female, even though you live in a male physical body. The physical
male body is soon going to be gone (worm food or ash, likely), but as you remain, your inner identity (whatever it may be) is the more lasting and
thus more real. There's nothing wrong with wanting to 'be' something, regardless if you are it or not. It could be that you, your values and your
thoughts, behaviour, etc. might suit (in this kind of a world) better for a female gender, but your physical body just happens to be male.
I think it all starts from this liberating realization that you are not your body, and you do not _HAVE_ to let a temporary, illusory thing like a
physical body COMPLETELY DICTATE your identity. The same goes for everything, though. You don't have to let a country dictate your identity. Your
language. Your wallet. Your 'culture', your favorite sports team, your car, your lawn mower, your wife, your neighbourhood, part of the city, sexual
preference, hobbies, work titles, .. I could go on, but you get the point.
The problem is, people of this planet WARP everything. The basis for 'gender is only a social construct' comes from this liberation from an artificial
'gender role' that DOES dictate a lot of what 'gender behaviour' is (mostly for men, though, because women are practically free to do and be whatever
they want without it affecting anything negatively, the least their sexual power).
So while there's obviously a solid physical (and etheric, energetic, chakra-based and so on) gender, it is mostly a physical (and etheric) thing. As
such, it doesn't HAVE to dictate everything you feel or think about things, it doesn't have to be your full identity - you don't have to identify with
it any more than you have to identify with your car; you can think of it as a nice, lovely, useless thing that takes you to places and lets you access
and do many things, but you don't have to make it your whole identity.
People on this planet tend to still CLING to the physical side, as they can't seem to embrace the spiritual truth about us being eternal energy beings
instead of some kind of physical freaks of nature that by happenstance evolved a very complex eye and brain systems (even Darwin himself didn't think
his theory could explain human eye, it's too complex).
This leads to warping everything, so then this very true and solid basis of 'gender roles are too tight and restricting, especially for those that do
not want to identify fully with their temporary physical body and its gender and other attributes, so they're free to identify with anything they want
instead', becomes 'gender is JUST a social construct', which is obviously wrong.
Then this 'gender identity' suddenly leads to insanity like 'if I identify as a 6-year old girl, although I live in a 50-year old male body, I will
magically BECOME a 6-year old girl, and EVERYONE has to accept me pretending to be a 6-year old girl as I make a fool of myself by unconvincingly
Like, how the heck do we go from 'liberating separation of illusory and real' to 'I can make another illusion into reality just by declaring it'-type
It's frustrating to watch how this insanity unfolds, because the core basis is solid and true; you have no obligation to obey anyone that demands that
just because of the shape of the physical body's (that you inhabit temporarily) genitals you HAVE to like this or you ARE NOT ALLOWED to like that
color or you HAVE to behave like this in this situation, although people with differently-shaped genitals of their body are completely free from that
Think of all the things that 'men' are basically pressured, brainwashed, conditioned, and even threatened to do. You have to pee while standing up
(you have no CHOICE in the matter - even though it's completely private! (or should be)), you have to be masculine and stoic, you're not allowed to
show emotion, especially cry (or everyone will think you're a weak, and 'no one likes a weak man' - how about a human that dares to express and live
both female and masculine sides, plus the human side? I guess that's only allowed if your temporary physical body has a different genitalia), you are
not allowed to wear or even want to wear dresses or there's an instant shaming-insult-name ready for you (but women are allowed to wear pants without
any bad consequences), you're not allowed to want to wear or like brightly-colored clothes, especially pink (think of pink pants on a man) or any kind
of loose things (like Togas of the ancient times, that men wore - ancient chinese wore very dresslike clothing, so did the Samurai, and thosand other
This list goes on. Isn't it weird, how insane this kind of genitalia-based discrimination, and yet how commonly accepted it is? It's normal, like
you're not allowed to be anything but a MAN, if you're incarnated in a physical body with male genitalia. You're not allowed to be HUMAN.
Women are allowed to be as masculine, feminine or human as they want, and they still have their sexual power intact. They can shave their head, wear
pants, heck, they could grow a moustache without losing any opportunities to mate.
But a mate can't sometimes even grow a long hair, let alone speak softly or act all 'cutesy', they will be considered insane or 'transvestite', let
alone wear, what is deemed 'women's clothing' - but if you look at things from another planet, there ARE no 'women's clothing'. Sure, you can cut
clothes so they fit better women's typically differently-shaped body, but does a DRESS care what kind of shape your body is? To me, there are just
clothes and cloth, and people have arbitrarily 'assigned' femininity or masculinity to them (beyond the shape cut I just mentioned, or maybe shoes).
Same goes with colors - pink is not particularly feminine color, as colors have no gender - but somehow we're associating it with femininity due to
cultural brainwashing. Not that many years ago, red and blue were reversed; blue was the feminine color, and red was seen as masculine (although it
wasn't quite 'pink' back in the day, I guess, but still).
Masculine men like undercover cops wore pink shirts in television shows in the eighties (and earlier). Suddenly men are only allowed black, grey, red
(the lowest-frequency color there is), blue, and maybe _very_ toned-down other colors. There's no biological reason for it, or any true gender-based