what is Love? 3 ways to a stable relationship!

For me there are 3 ways of love. They all have to do with relationship! How we connect with others!

Mental, like someone you feel connected on a intellectual level.(connection of the mind)

From the heart, like my mother used to love me, and how i love my kids(the spiritual connection)

And sexual, in sexually attracted to someone. ( The body connection)

They are not mutually exclusive!!!

Let's locate these three in our body and imagine they are where we connect with someone and get able to start dancing (having a relationship)

There is more fun in dancing together!

Let's also keep in mind that a harmonic dance depends on harmonic beats and harmonic connections!

The mind connection happens as soon as you are self aware, you will, in the interaction with others, feel more or less connected with someone's mind. This can come and go very quickly.
only after you manage to establish a connection with the heart or/and the body you're stable and can dance.

The body connection, is very similar to the mind just on the physical polarity. You are only stable to dance if you manage to connect the heart or/and the mind.


The heart is different because it doesn't necessarily need another connection but if we connect with the heart only there is harmony as long as the beat is harmonic. As soon as the first disharmonious ripples are able to affect the mind and/or the body, the relationship starts to get wobbly...
Look at all the familiar dramas, the mother might not understand her kids, and hopefully isn't sexually attracted to them but she sure loves her babys wholeheartedly...

Why are so many families all but harmonic?

Sincerely No Clue

A very interesting way of putting things, I like it S&F

Now the reason I posted, I don’t normally pay much attention to names and I know most members by their avatars and yours is hard to read anyway on your background.

I always saw your posts and your sign off always struck me as very polite and humble, I only just realised it’s your name and not you saying you were unsure hahahahaha

I genuinely lold when I realised that just now, thanks for the chuckle and stay humble

a reply to: NoClue

I was always told that marriage was a 60/40 split.
As long as both people give 60 percent the marriage with thrive.

After nearly 25 years of happy marriage I feel I've got the experience to give an real world assessment.

People that keep score will never be happy in a relationship.

The killers of any relationship are......

Dishonesty and Disrespect and Selfishness

Some people never see that!!

a reply to: eletheia

I'm sorry you suffer from break ups.

I understand that after we connect to someone on a stable base, most commonly through the heart, and fail to understand that the purpose of any stable relationship is to have a stable projection space, we will not be able to heal our perceived negative aspects, and we become a loopback that ultimately breaks the bond. And this hurts because alot of tension that were previously shared, are now felt in yourself only!

It doesn't have to be that hard and long!

I'm working on a model to explain emotions. But it's a bit wobbly still

No Clue

a reply to: IkNOwSTuff

Inkowstuffto but have no clue about them...

Funny and humble and mean. You will see what you are.


No Clue

originally posted by: NoClue

get able to start dancing

Oh hell yeah OP!

originally posted by: NoClue
a reply to: eletheia

I'm sorry you suffer from break ups.

I understand that after we connect to someone on a stable base, most commonly through the heart, and fail to understand that the purpose of any stable relationship is to have a stable projection space, we will not be able to heal our perceived negative aspects, and we become a loopback that ultimately breaks the bond. And this hurts because alot of tension that were previously shared, are now felt in yourself only!

It doesn't have to be that hard and long!

I'm working on a model to explain emotions. But it's a bit wobbly still

No Clue

Thanks for this. I wish I read it 8 weeks ago.
Still, I am looking forward to reading your model and hope it helps me move on.
Cheers.

a reply to: NarcolepticBuddha

I had that song playing when I wrote the tread title!

NC

a reply to: NoClue

I should have read further than 3 way.

originally posted by: NarcolepticBuddha

originally posted by: NoClue

get able to start dancing

Oh hell yeah OP!

I got two in my head when I think of Her depending on if I'm up or down ...

P!nk - Just give me a reason

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Foreigner - Cold as Ice

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a reply to: highvein

Huh?

a reply to: Cymru

I'm sorry you have to go through this.

I responded in one of your threads.

If it helps no clue

a reply to: NoClue

Yes Mate , thanks for that in the other thread . Much appreciated .

originally posted by: NoClue
a reply to: highvein

Huh?

LOL! While you've mentioned in the past that you know 5 languages, which one is your first?

a reply to: Deetermined



Ok i got it now

Hahahaha

Good catch and quite on topic



Thanks for the laugh

No Clue

a reply to: NarcolepticBuddha

And to add insult to injury , this just popped up on the Office Sonos box ...

The Supremes - You can't hurry Love

a reply to: NoClue

Why are so many families all but harmonic?

Because the mind has the ability to screw with the heart and the body?

a reply to: Deetermined

They all screw each other...

get aware of the three aspects at hand and see which one you don't understand.

I'll be around

Honestly No Clue

originally posted by: Bluntone22
a reply to: NoClue

I was always told that marriage was a 60/40 split.
As long as both people give 60 percent the marriage with thrive.

After nearly 25 years of happy marriage I feel I've got the experience to give an real world assessment.

People that keep score will never be happy in a relationship.

We are in a rare club these days.

I was told that in order for a marriage to be successful
A man must love a woman more than himself.
A woman must respect her husband.

I guess those things are very rare now, especially since a lot of people can't figure out what they are.