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originally posted by: Fallingdown
The easiest way to feel better when you’re miserable.
Is to make someone else miserable .
It is tried and tested method that goes back to the dawn of man.
Guys are good at it but women have perfected it .
(Jk)
originally posted by: CharlesT
I'm single now for the past 2 years, retired and could care less for what happens beyond my fences any more. I am quite happy in my solitude at this point.
Edit: I have my cats.
It's when people won't let you go to get on with your life and keep pestering you in a never ending repetition of attention seeking drama via social media (especially) emails, texts and so on because they cannot handle being rejected.
originally posted by: CharlesT
a reply to: XXXN3O
It's when people won't let you go to get on with your life and keep pestering you in a never ending repetition of attention seeking drama via social media (especially) emails, texts and so on because they cannot handle being rejected.
That's what I'm finally rid of, dealing with other peoples problems and insecurities. Dealing with and agonizing over their perceptions of me. I had more than enough of that and am finally glad to be living for myself for a change. I'm content to live the rest of my life in peace and quiet. Somewhere in the bible, the best man can expect and strive for is a quiet and peaceful life. That's my plan for the time I have remaining.
originally posted by: XXXN3O
I came across this vid that I feel highlights something profoundly wrong with the way we are approaching our lives today. It's based on the book "How to be miserable" by Randy J Paterson.
Here are the five principles covered in a brief summary - watch the short clip for a far better insight.
1) Become an island unto yourself - Isolate yourself in a room with a computer!
2) Take things seriously - Very seriously and take everything personally!
3) The Past the Future and the Present - Never live in the present! Always focus on the past to determine what you can do and fear the future based on what has happened in the past.
4) Relinquish your goals completely - Always look at the start and the end of a major goal you want to make it appear utterly impossible!
5) Let fear paralyse you - If you have an idea of doing something new, let the idea stop and immediately obey your comfort impulses, always wait for that perfect moment when it is completely safe to change something in your life!
When I watched this video personally. I actually ended up laughing out loud and then began to wonder what on earth happened in my own life.
I started out some major changes in my own life back in 2012 that led to a divorce, loss of employment, losing my house, family, friends, financial sabotage from others (I knew it would happen but allowed it because I never thought people could stab another in the back so badly), and ultimately had me living homeless for a while to keep it short. All the while masking the truth during television appearances and letting nothing stop me. Just when I was about to crack it and change my life for the better, I looked back at the old and felt this thing called fear, ultimately slipping right into the very 5 traps described here refusing to continue for the fear of what might happen.
I have another life changing opportunity that came my way two days ago, but fear is keeping me from taking it, fear of the consequences, fear of repeating the past, fear of condemnation based on the past but im going to face it and do it anyway.
Just thought I would share in case any of you folks are struggling or have fallen into this trap unintentionally as is often the case I believe.
From my own experiences, social media has a heck of a lot of answering to do with its power to demand conformity in line with the expectations of others. Not to be underestimated and I worry about the youth suffering for it (im in my early 30's).
Have you fallen into the traps above? Do you live in fear? Open to the opinions of others and experiences etc.
Cheers