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Girl Scouts warn parents about forcing kids to hug relatives for the holidays
Girl Scouts of the USA issued a warning to parents this holiday season, asking them to think twice before forcing their daughters to hug relatives at gatherings.
“Think of it this way, telling your child that she owes someone a hug either just because she hasn’t seen this person in a while or because they gave her a gift can set the stage for her questioning whether she ‘owes’ another person any type of physical affection when they have bought her dinner or done something else seemingly nice for her later in life,” reads the post on the Girl Scouts’ website.
Dr. Janet Taylor, a psychiatrist based in New York City and Sarasota, Fla., said parents should be careful to not create "a mass hysteria about physical contact with loved ones," especially during the holiday season.
"As parents, we have to use common sense and also realize that it’s never too early to start a conversation about good touch and bad touch," said Taylor. "But also we don’t want to overstep our boundaries so our children are not afraid of who they should not be afraid of."
originally posted by: Nyiah
...can set the stage for her questioning whether she ‘owes’ another person any type of physical affection when they have bought her dinner or done something else seemingly nice for her later in life...
originally posted by: AugustusMasonicus
...can set the stage for her questioning whether she ‘owes’ another person any type of physical affection when they have bought her dinner or done something else seemingly nice for her later in life...
Someone needs to explain to the Girl Scouts that this is exactly how it works later in life.
If I take you out for dinner and even let you order an appy to go with your din-din I better be getting huggy time later.
originally posted by: dragonridr
a reply to: Nyiah
Wow a swing and a miss. Sorry my daughter is still required to hug grandma. Things like this i see as an attempts to break family bonds there is no other explination
originally posted by: butcherguy
a reply to: Nyiah
Yeah, hugging is bad now.
We might just be screwed as a society at this point.... maybe not as a race, but our society seems to be on a whacky downward spiral.
IMHO.
originally posted by: dragonridr
a reply to: Nyiah
Wow a swing and a miss. Sorry my daughter is still required to hug grandma. Things like this i see as an attempts to break family bonds there is no other explination
originally posted by: trollz
When I was younger, my dad's mother used to visit (I refuse to call her my grandmother). She was a textbook version of a psychological/emotional abuser and she was hell-bent on trying to belittle me and make me feel inferior to her at every possible opportunity.
originally posted by: Nyiah
If we don't teach kids how to interact despite initial misgivings, we end up with snowflakes who grow up into even bigger snowflakes. We already have enough of them, time to work on whittling the numbers down, not increasing them.
originally posted by: AugustusMasonicus
originally posted by: Nyiah
If we don't teach kids how to interact despite initial misgivings, we end up with snowflakes who grow up into even bigger snowflakes. We already have enough of them, time to work on whittling the numbers down, not increasing them.
They just need to be properly motivated to hug the relatives. I suggest they all get a trophy after each hug.
I especially want to apologize to anyone who has ever been on the receiving end of an unwanted hug or any other gesture they felt crossed the line in any way, shape, or form. No matter how benign my intent, everyone has the right to set their own boundaries and have them respected," Lasseter wrote in the memo obtained by The Times.