Is it possible that affairs that contain major sexual energy are for others?

You turn an innocent corner, and you forget your promise because the strength of desire is so powerful.

Maybe you are being manipulated. Maybe the chaos is food for others. I think this is possibly a thing.

Maybe some of us have raging #ucking hormones. And this is a natural thing that allows our beautiful species to survive. My girlfriend fell asleep early so I think I'm off to pornhub now.

a reply to: droid56

Or perhaps some people are unfaithful dogs, with no conscience. Who simply give-in to carnal desires with no thought of others.

All are possible. But behind the curtain influence is possible. I walked into too many ambushes to not believe this is possible.

originally posted by: TruthsSword
a reply to: droid56

Or perhaps some people are unfaithful dogs, with no conscience. Who simply give-in to carnal desires with no thought of others.

I think this is also a thing. Unfortunately.

a reply to: droid56

You can think with your mind or your head. Humans by nature tend to be very sexually driven. However when you have devoted yourself in some fashion to another, emotions and a thought process need to occur.

I personally dont understand the whole appeal to having an affair thing. If I want someone else I will drop who Im with and get who I want. All of that lying and sneaking and stuff is too much trouble.. its a hell of a lot more fun to put all of that energy into a person who knows your quirks and satisfies them. Probably why I dont get one night stands either.

a reply to: Advantage

Sadly, there are families.

originally posted by: JinMI
a reply to: droid56

You can think with your mind or your head. Humans by nature tend to be very sexually driven. However when you have devoted yourself in some fashion to another, emotions and a thought process need to occur.

Actually, what we eat can effect the sexual drive in people and also the creation of hormones. Bananas increase our sexual drive, they tell us bananas are good for us. Why? Possibly because it keeps us preoccupied with sex infatuation?

You see, these foods that make us horney keep us away from thinking of what Politicians are doing, unless they are cute.

a reply to: rickymouse

Still, morality should play a role in our thinking,

a reply to: rickymouse

Heading to the store to buy a few dozen bananas. Then perhaps calling it a week!

originally posted by: droid56
a reply to: Advantage

Sadly, there are families.

And Id divorce or leave before Id cause myself or the others headaches.. not to mention I am serious about vows and promises.. as everyone SHOULD be. Even taking it seriously, if things change then it makes sense to end one thing before starting another.. its not fair to anyone when its done so smarmy and sneaky.

Even when I was younger I couldnt juggle humans. It gets tedious and not a lot of fun. I simply dont understand the draw to such a thing. I have a more than healthy sex drive and like particular things.. it was a nice thing when I found my match. Why would I want anything else when I found one who trips my trigger? I wouldnt. Maybe those who want or need affairs made crappy decisions and got with people to quickly or that were not a good match. Still makes sense in that event to end one thing before starting another. If they have to have affairs when with someone.. sounds like a mental and emotional handicap to me... one Id not even consider dealing with. Knowing Im with someone and a man still persisted.... he would disgust me. If he was with someone himself and pursued me.. he would disgust me. He has an issue that isnt worth the trouble. I would think only a fellow defective would entertain being treated with so little respect.

a reply to: droid56

9/10 of my girlfriends cheated on me, when i was younger, their friends almost forced them to do it, especially single friends.

Once i said to a girlfriend, that her friends are manipulating her and are basically evil, and that they must go, well, only thing i achieved, was that she blamed me for losing her friends.


I have come to this conclusion, Life and relationships are like a piece of cake you get to eat, but only after reality takes a huge (SNIP) on it.

a reply to: droid56

I need to be able to look in the mirror each morning and be able to live with the person I see. Some people just don't have high standards for themselves or simply don't care who they hurt.

It's not up to me to judge others on their sexual activities or their sexuality.

Not everything is in black and white, when it comes to affairs.

But, if I make a promise I intend to keep it.

No. And yes.

We can all be envious of other people, but we don't know whether their sex is better. We can imagine and fantasise, but at the end of the day the sexual energy is in you and the person you are with.

If the OP is just unsatisfied and is looking elsewhere, then at least be honest.

originally posted by: Advantage
I personally dont understand the whole appeal to having an affair thing. If I want someone else I will drop who Im with and get who I want. All of that lying and sneaking and stuff is too much trouble..

Whatever happened to personal responsibility and self control

Does ones head rule ones body or does ones body rule ones head

The devil made me do it ....


Oh! and the measure of a wo/man is what they will do if they know

they won't get found out.

a reply to: droid56

Aren't all relationships ones own desires/values/urges balanced against your other partner(s)?

Some partners are understanding to certain needs. For others it goes against their values.

So the real question is are your urges/desires more important than your partner and their values?

If so, you probably need a new partner that is more accepting of your urges/desires.

If not, your partner offers much greater benefits then your urges/desires can.

If only it were this simple.

a reply to: droid56

You turn an innocent corner, and you forget your promise because the strength of desire is so powerful.

So the mere sight of a beautiful woman made you forget the promise you made to the person you love.... Well, supposedly love.
Must not be a very good relationship if you can forget her that easy. You can excuse it by saying "raging hormones' or what ever, but adults take into consideration the feelings of others and the promises made, not just forget them and start ripping off clothes. I know attraction can be powerful, but if you're always letting the little head think for the big head, you're going to ruin every relationship you ever have.
Plus, cheating is a shi**y thing to do and I distrust those who do it. If you can't keep a promise made to the one you love, you're not going to even hesitate to lie to me.

originally posted by: Illumimasontruth
Maybe some of us have raging #ucking hormones. And this is a natural thing that allows our beautiful species to survive. My girlfriend fell asleep early so I think I'm off to pornhub now.

She might have fallen asleep to avoid the touch of a pervert. I would watch out for the big break up.