posted on Jan, 4 2017 @ 06:37 AM
originally posted by: Xcathdra
The last 5 years have been a roller coaster for me and all on a downward free fall, from personal problems, medical issues, work related issues and
such. I ended up in the Hospital on Christmas and was just discharged yesterday. While the medical problems have not been too serious on an
individual level, when they are all put together its taken its toll. Some of the results has been the loss of my job, insurance, savings and just
about everything else we rely on on a daily basis for basic survival. If not for family I would be adding homeless to that list.
Wow that sound like a copy of a page in my life and that is no exaggeration. I hope you are doing as well as possible right now and that you can find
some rest and peace from it all for a while.
In my case i started getting certain pain symptoms which gotten slowly but steadily worse that after about 2 years made it almost impossible to do my
job and i ended up losing it. I had a quite a bit of support from my employee but i also saw that it was getting to much and was unsustainable. For
all that time they could not diagnose it in the hospitable which is not that strange imo since they constancy did the same basic tests.
I had a nice discussion with one of the doctors about this when one day he mentioned "but look at this file look at how many times we checked but
found nothing" because his argument was that it was all between my ears. I told him "Look this is BS, if i cant find my car keys at home and i look in
the same drawer for a month long every day i wont ever find it either now will i ?" But even then they stuck with it,
they said the same about my mother once who was quit visibly far from alright, she ended up having terminal lung cancer when they finally found out
what was wrong.
So i lost my job but had a mortgage and all the bills that come with living including insurance kept coming. I juggled with those bills living of my
savings for as much as i could while avoiding bothering friends or family with my issues (a mistake i can advice anyone against doing, its ok to ask
for help i see that now)
I was not eligible for support or my insurance for many things because i never received a actual medical diagnose.
Much later on they finally found what is wrong with me. They found Asbestos in my lungs. Yeah..
Needless to say i lost everything including my relationship spend that Christmas and new years alone in my house which i still had , shortly after
that i had to ask for help otherwise i would have ended up homeless but i had so many unpaid bills to my name i could not even rent a car without
being rejected. I was kind of forced to ask for help but much like you i was quite private and never really showed my face when i had issues. Call it
stubbornness or false pride.
Had it not been for my fantastic family i would have been out on the street all by myself. In hind sight i regret having been too proud to reach out,
being with certain family members truly did wonders for my mental state i can tell you that so despite of it all it is truly good to hear you have a
good family around you and there for you. I learned the hard way that that is the most important thing one can have.
Keep that head up