It felt somewhat self indulgent to post this at first, but considering some of the threads i read in this forum from time to time, perhaps this can
provide some encouragement to others who, like me never thought of marriage/commitment as a sensible thing to do, or indeed a realistic option...
Last week i was lucky enough to marry a totally awesome woman who to be fair must be a little cracked in the head as i'm bloody hard work at times to
say the least.
It's something that for a few years we really never thought would happen - we live some distance (an hour and a half or so via car) from one another;
i have a son (living just over half the time with his Mother, local to me) whose locale i would never move away from; she has a great job that she
adores (even further from my home) that i would never seek to discourage her from and these seemed to block us from ever living together.
So of course, we could not bring our lives any closer together, and would be destined only to see each other alternate weekends and whatever other
time we could shoe-horn into our schedules, sniff.
But we eventually decided that the above was a load of stinky bollocks and who needs to use everyone else's template for loving bliss anyway? It's
about ourselves, and our love and commitment, nuts to what society holds as the norm.
So rather than wait forever for the winds to change and for the time to be "right" (whatever that means)....
We eloped to St Lucia (thanks to the mother in law) and only took immediate family with us... in fact the whole thing was a total secret outside of
this group (bar one confidante each) to avoid all the politics of where, when, who and why that goes with the whole organising of such an event and
i'm flumping delighted that we made that choice. We live some fair distance apart and also have friends and family spread all over the place so the
logistics, politics (and costs for some potential guests) would have been considerable.. instead they got a nice surprise and an invite to one of a
few post wedding parties in their neck of the woods. Total organising time came to a handful of hours, praise be to the gods!
So a pic of the happy couple:
We also met on the internet, shock horror.
I'd never really considered marriage before (i'm 41 btw), and saw it as totally unnecessary as an enlightened citizen of outer space and so forth,
but i came to realise that this was rather selfish of me, as my honey came to desire a ceremony of commitment more and more. How could i deny her
this? After all, i want her for keeps too.
So, the moral of the story? Don't wait around, or be concerned about how others do things - seize the day and do it your own way (and that means
both of you)