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reply posted on 20-12-2008 @ 02:03 PM by Spiramirabilis
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...Really what is it that gives us this transcendent sort of acceptance (when it happens) for everyone we see? Why does it have to go away?...


good question - it's something I ask myself all the time. I can only tell you something I've discovered for myself - which may or may not help you - or even apply to you right now - since I'm not sure how old you are

for myself - I noticed that as I gained more life experience - the less I could see life, the world, people - from a black and white point of view. Everything became a little more grey. It actually complicates things at first - but it can also bring balance to your life

when you see people you love or admire do things that disturb you - or you see people you didn't respect or like do amazing, wonderful things that really and truly surprise you - you realize you can't depend on a simple explanation for good and bad

sooner or later you do things that make you lose respect for your own self - and then, you do something just spectacularly generous, kind - or just plain nice, and that surprises you too

at some point it dawns on you - we're all human - and there are reasons for the things we do - we are all capable of wonderful and terrible things

it doesn't solve anything - and it doesn't make wrong right. The problems of the world don't just go away. But the ups and downs are less - the disappointments are easier to understand and weather. It's also easier at some point to recognize what's right with the world - and not focus as much on what's wrong. You can become accustomed to the ups and downs - it makes the swings less dramatic - there's a sense of "this too shall pass"


reply posted on 21-12-2008 @ 10:58 AM by Spiramirabilis

Sad thing is a psychologist would diagnose you as bi-polar and want to put you on pills to "correct" this, when it's just part of growing up.


while I don't want to take away from the importance of getting a correct diagnosis (if there is a real chance of mental health problems) - I think you touch on something very important with this

not just from an observers perspective - but from our own - of ourselves

experiencing strong emotions is not a sign of mental illness - it seems these days that if you aren't quiet, well behaved/tame/subdued, neutral or HAPPY - you have some sort of problem

strong emotions and moods are part of being human - it's only when they become a real obstacle to living and functioning that it may be a problem - and that can be a tough call to make - when is it a real problem - when is it just a part of being alive?

we grow up sometimes thinking the whole point is to be happy - and when we're not - we can tend to believe there's something wrong with us. When we're young, we don't always understand that - and we haven't had enough experience to learn how to go with the flow

giving yourself permission to be as miserable as you need to be - will actually help you move through it a lot faster than fighting it (in my opinion - and based on my experience)

being miserable and disappointed is just as normal as being happy :-)

edit to add: I forgot to say - I'm glad you're having a good day - have a happy holiday - even if it's not your holiday


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