would you feel safer with another male point of view? would that comfort you? Ok fine
I as a man see it day in and day out. It's clear as day in the rampant and up-to-the-minute objectification of women...period
(back to that in a second)
women are underrepresented in positions of power (CEO's government and the like). Now a lot of men might say "Well they don't chase that power or they
don't chase that goal" but consider the source
Men on the whole (myself included) will never understand what it means to be a woman...period...try all you want it isn't going to happen.
I am married...almost 11 years in August. I don't know what it is like to be cat called just walking down the street, I don't know what it's like to
be a PhD student in genetics and get told that this is for the boys, I don't know what it's like to have to clutch a purse or sit in the back of the
bus so your back isn't facing a guy because those particular fellows are looking at you like a piece of meat, I don't know what it feels like to be
unheard, unvoiced, not listened to because of the gender I was born with
You know who has? My wife? I'd love...LOVE to say she was just some random statistical anomaly. I'd love to say that she was the only woman who ever
experienced this (well not personally...but you get my point)
but the fact is I cannot say that and neither can statistics. Sexual assault, harrassment, and day to day mysogny exist despite the lack of
recognition of said existence
See I can go to work and not have guys try to stare down my shirt (and thank god because ain't nobody got time for that). I can stand up and make a
statement as a leader and people listen without thinking I am a ballbuster. Hell if I weren't married I could sleep with 50 women...tonight...and be a
hero to men everywhere. Monuments would be erected to my prowess. But the reverse is so true about all of these things for women
Whereas I can 'conquer' many sexual adventures, a woman sleeps with a couple guys in here life and she is (well I am not going to say the word). A
woman becomes a leader and she's a ballbuster. A woman decides to dress nice and eyes immediately go to the chest as if some downshirt view of her is
going to make things soooo much more comfortable for that guy.
Not satisfied? (probably aren't...and the next part won't satisfy you either)
So let's get away from microagressions on a daily scale...and back to my first point
Go look at magazines for women like US or People...I see em every time I shop and grab a candy bar from the impulse rack.
Women...in bikinis and being talked about...not about their acting or singing skills, not about their positions or accomplishments...but about their
breasts, stomach, butt...blah blah blah
And god help her if she gains a few....WOOOO disaster right there. She immediately becomes devalued because she doesn't fit in society's pretty little
picture frame for her.
Christina Aguilera gained weight...quite a bit for a while and that's all anyone could talk about...personally I don't care so much for her music but
she has a hell of a voice...but doesn't matter she was -gasp- overweight...no longer worth anything to society
Then the ‘best’ one…US had their monthly ‘best and worst’ bikini bodies issue that catches my eye. It has Katie Holmes on the cover. She is
in a bikini sitting, leg’s out and bending forward a bit (details of why this is important in a second)
Flat tummy, looking great. But seriously, sit like that and lean forward, your stomach will almost invariably roll a bit. And next to her stomach is a
caption that says “Belly Jelly”. How offensive and insulting. This is what we are worried about? Katie Holmes, looking stunning and sitting in
that position guaranteed to make anyone roll a bit…No we don’t care about her acting prowess or accomplishments, just how she looks in a bikini.
Even if you legitimately don’t like her acting…awesome...judge her as an actor then…tell me she was terrible in Batman Begins…I may or may not
agree but at least you are talking about her as an artist and that is your right…not a piece of meat.
Then next to it the have some (apparent) actress or musician in a bikini who has clearly gained weight. Her face is covered and the caption says
“You’ll never guess who this is!” WHO CARES! Is this really all she is worth? I mean it…you don’t see this OP? It’s everywhere
I am not in much a position to talk about bodies…I am overweight by probably 40 pounds and I’ll be frank…a lot of that is in my abdominal
But here is the kicker…I am not judged by that. It’s perfectly ok with me being overweight because as a male I am judged on my actions, my speech,
my personality…meanwhile women are judge on two very unimportant things…I am sure you can guess…and when they don’t ‘fit’ to
standards…well to heck with her then!
Sarah Palin did not become VP…thanks god…but that’s my politics speaking. She IMO was very unfit for the position. Michelle Obama DID however
become first lady. And while there are plenty of resources talking about the first lady’s accomplishments, we all want to know what she is wearing!
Society was more concerned with Palin being a ‘MILF’ as opposed to her politics
OP…it’s there…the patriarchy is there. It is ALL around you every single day…and it’s very easy to not see it when you aren’t the victim
of the system. Myself included …I used to catch myself looking at a woman, which I don’t believe is inherently wrong but then I would catch myself
like making some snap judgment on her because she was pretty…and people don’t see anything wrong with this? I sure as hell did. I don’t claim
perfection…I am so far from perfection it isn’t silly. Yes I think Jennifer Lawrence is beautiful…I am not afraid to deny it…but I like to
look at her as an actress…like I said if you want to hate Katniss Everdeen and dislike Jennifer’s portrayal or Katniss…awesome…we won’t all
agree on that. But perhaps we need to start moving past this idea that women’s worth is directly related to her looks…so if you want to pretend it
doesn’t exist…hell that’s fine too. It’s a free country…but don’t talk about it like it never exists because you either fail to see it
(which is understandable because we are men) or rather see it and are ignorant to it…
It’s there…go talk to women…honestly…talk to them and ask what it’s like to be them
I am not speaking for women…I am not even saying this is the experience of all women. Some women have found some magical method to burst through the
patriarchy and thrive…but then I guess she’s just a ballbuster? Hell I am not even saying all men feel the way I am talking about...but it is out
there...look the the whole 'friendzone' thing. It's like saying "My friend OWES me sex but is denying me...I'm a victim"
Guys can be victims too I don't deny that. I'd even be willing to say that many guys don't report it. It sucks seeing a woman divorce and take
everything from him and his kids too. All I am saying is the system is weighed against one gender and has been for ages
Yeah…that is how I feel…and I am certainly not sorry for saying it
Now if we could go ahead and cue the “KyoZero is only doing this to score” posts that’d be great
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