posted on Jan, 31 2005 @ 09:03 AM
hi Blueknight,
i feel for you,thats a tough situation and one no person should have to be in.....i dont think theres a magic cure for it or a quick answer,but if
this helps you at all then i would try and not worry about your parents point of view,they will make a desicion one way or another whatever you
do,just try and explain via an e-mail or letter that your now strong enough to take on the responsibility of your child as your own and that with her
being so young this is the perfect time for this to start,youve had enough heartbreak in your life and dont need anymore,your sisters helping out was
only what any normal human being should be able to expect from their immediate family and her behaviour of not even answering your phonecalls is
making the problem of re-allocating her niece to her rightfull place with you her farther, trying to fill a gap in her own life with another persons
child is no answer to this situation.
Let your parents talk to her about what she is doing, they stand more of a chance of negociating your sister re-uniting you with your daughter,dont
forget your own mothers love for you is conditionless,she would have to be very strange to not see what you want is the right thing to do.
Personally dont mention court proceedings unless you absoloutley have to,i believe you still have a great chance of your sister seeing the right
thing to do.....let your parents apply the relevent 'levearage' and talk her into seeing the advantage of having a beautiful niece grow up with an
auntie that obviously loves her very much.........shes performed a role any man should be able to ask from his sister but that role is now
finished,its time to take on the role of auntie.
good luck mate,i hope you get this resolved....whatever happens....you will never loose your daughter!