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If you think you’re hearing the word “empathy” everywhere, you’re right. It’s now on the lips of scientists and business leaders, education experts and political activists. But there is a vital question that few people ask: How can I expand my own empathic potential? Empathy is not just a way to extend the boundaries of your moral universe. According to new research, it’s a habit we can cultivate to improve the quality of our own lives.
But what is empathy? It’s the ability to step into the shoes of another person, aiming to understand their feelings and perspectives, and to use that understanding to guide our actions. That makes it different from kindness or pity. And don’t confuse it with the Golden Rule, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” As George Bernard Shaw pointed out, “Do not do unto others as you would have them do unto you—they might have different tastes.” Empathy is about discovering those tastes.
The big buzz about empathy stems from a revolutionary shift in the science of how we understand human nature. The old view that we are essentially self-interested creatures is being nudged firmly to one side by evidence that we are also homo empathicus, wired for empathy, social cooperation, and mutual aid.
Habit 1: Cultivate curiosity about strangers
Habit 2: Challenge prejudices and discover commonalities
Habit 3: Try another person’s life
Habit 4: Listen hard—and open up
Habit 5: Inspire mass action and social change
Habit 6: Develop an ambitious imagination
Empathy will most likely flower on a collective scale if its seeds are planted in our children. That’s why HEPs support efforts such as Canada’s pioneering Roots of Empathy, the world’s most effective empathy teaching program, which has benefited over half a million school kids. Its unique curriculum centers on an infant, whose development children observe over time in order to learn emotional intelligence—and its results include significant declines in playground bullying and higher levels of academic achievement.
I cannot watch shows, like the court shows, the bachelor type, or anything where people get "emotionally" hurt or embarrassed.
To become a better person and help improve humanity, you must put in the hard work to free yourself. It's a long and uphill battle, but the end result is far more rewarding than the money/cash/hoes paradigm TPTB push as the "meaning" of life.
But, I don't care. I won't ever change, and, the older I get, the more outspoken I get. In particular when it comes to the elderly and children.
It's almost like an instinct, or second nature, to put myself in that persons' position, like I see the event happening from their point if view.
Sometimes, it's very painfull, emotionally. The oddest thing about it all, it's very hard to do all od this for myself. For me, it is always a hindsight type of thing. I always seem to see the event like a movie replaying in ky mind, and I become full of coulda, shoulda, woulda.
Highly empathetic folks.. when I see them react... freak me the hell out. My oldest daughter is very empathetic and she truly freaks me out... I cant understand it even with those close to me. Its frightening or bewildering. I cant imagine being under the control of emotions in such a way!
Was Ayn Rand even a real person or was she a meme? I really wonder.
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Highly empathetic folks.. when I see them react... freak me the hell out. My oldest daughter is very empathetic and she truly freaks me out... I cant understand it even with those close to me. Its frightening or bewildering. I cant imagine being under the control of emotions in such a way!
Really! Well, thanks for posting.
I guess I "freak people out" too - but - it's an inborn personality trait.
Like I said, my daughter gets alarmed at my sensitivity - all my life I've been told I'm "too sensitive" - has that helped to stop it?
A little. I've learned (finally) to draw boundaries - only took me 45 years to even get remotely good at it....
but - from a person who is painfully empathic, I can tell you for sure -
it CAN change the world.
We are not alone. We are all connected. We need to recognize that.
Thanks for your candid response.