6 months to live...and not a clue what to say

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Thank you so much! I too love my signature...it is simple yet speaks volumes to me. You know, like sometimes you can only be so strong for so long and then you get so overwhelmed, you just need another day to start over again.

For K2 and anyone going through a tough time.

Hi Kat very moving, and thank you for sharing, Your angel light is strong, it's lovely to see.

Night Star as always a pleasure to meet you in a thread with your gentle soul

I think I may have something in my eye.



Cody

You can be supportive to her family, right? Go watch her kid graduate college, maybe see her a few extra times? Ah, utilitarian as always with me.

Cody, thanks for your help, Nightstar, had no idea.

Uh... I have nothing, that sounds hard. Good luck to you both

I'm very sorry to hear about this very sad news. I'm praying for your friend, and for you.

I just thought I would throw this out there: my sister is friends with a woman who went through a situation much like your friends. She had breast cancer, it went away, then came back, went away, then came back with such a vengeance that the doctors told her that there was nothing they could for her. My sister asked me if I had any ideas how to treat it naturally, and I told her about the Budwig Protocol.

However, the woman, on her own, learned about vitamin B17. After a few months of drastically improving her diet and going on a vitamin B17 regimen, she was given a clean bill of health.

I know this may not be the case with every person, but I feel it's at least worth a try. God bless you and your friend

Originally posted by k21968
What do I do???

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You enjoy the time you have left with your friend. Make sure the last months of her life, are not about being sad or sick. Go experience life the best you can. Bring her joy and do what you can to take her mind of the cancer.

The best thing to do is to keep being yourself around her, not someone who is afraid she will break because of this. Treat her like you have always treated her. And get out and live. Lots and lots of smiles, lots and lots of joy and good times. That would be the greatest gift you can give her.

I am so sorry that your friend has to go through this and I am sorry that you have to witness your friend going through this. But she needs you to be strong and positive. Smiles, joy and good times. No worrying about disease or death. If she needs to talk about things that should happen after/during this time, she will say it. Untill then, smiles, joy and good times.

At least that is what I would wish, were I in the situation.

reply to post by StealthyKat
You will live 80+ years,because you you are a beautiful soul and you deserve to reach that age.

And because it is my will,as I have this power to heal almost every desease.

I know you may think that I am crazy,but my words always speaks the truth.

Even if I will tell you the reason of your illness probably you will not believe me.

I know you for a long time ,and your illness began from the moments you began posting in the Japan forum about the Fukushima disaster and the radiation issue.

And because of this you have attracted the need of use of radiation(another type of radiation) and not the radiation itself.

But it is okay you will heal,you will drink from the water of life (which are my threads) which I have and you will be back in the days before your illness when no cloud has darkened your life.

Read all my threads and you will be okay.

reply to post by k21968

This is always a hard one to deal with and by the time we get into our 40s or 50s, many of us have faced the same situation you're facing now. Sadly, sometimes we face it way sooner, or as some members here have shared, it's ourselves who are the ones who have to fight the fight.

You've already received some wonderful suggestions. The idea to do some video is especially good, because it's something to keep effectively forever. It's practical but also beautiful.

But to me, the most beautiful thing is write a letter, a real letter on paper that she can hold in her hands, for when we were oh, so young (remember those days? ), that's the way we shared our messages and thoughts and feelings. We wrote them down, we drew little hearts and stars on the envelope and with very special friends, we even wrote "SWAK" on the back. You remember those times. You remember when letters were special, when it took time and thought to write them then perhaps read them through and then add a PS and a PPS and even a PPPS, and then carefully fold the pages so they'll fit just right in the envelope, then seal it up and write the address on it, and put on a stamp, then go down the street and drop it in a post box, holding it by our fingertips for the last moment before we let it fall and continue on its journey to the one we cared about. The journey started when we put pen to paper, and it didn't end until the one we wrote to opened their letterbox, saw the envelope, then rushed back inside to open it, take out those carefully-folded pages and begin to read.

That's how we connected, that's how we shared. And yes, sometimes there was a little bit of magic in it all.

You remember all that, and so does she. So, write a letter to her and somewhere in the pages, say something like, "I love you. I love you so much. Thank you for being you. No matter what happens, you are always in my life and in my heart and soul. Even if you move on to the next stage of existence, and even if it's soon, you're always with me and with everyone who loves you. And even as you hold and read these pages, I'm with you."

Blessings,

Mike

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So are you going to use your powers to heal her friend?

reply to post by StealthyKat

Kat,

thank you for sharing with us. It's wonderful and special and loving, kind and generous and deeply beautiful that you are reaching out to another who's suffering, even now.

You have many, many friends here, and like all of them, I wish you strength, courage, and some freedom from the pain as you fight and overcome and go on to full health once more.

Just remember, we're here, any time you need us. You never need to feel alone.

Mike

^^^

Like Mike said

Never feel you are alone we are only a u2u away

Cody

reply to post by k21968

Death comes to each of us, and there is nothing anyone can do about it, we can only live with the time we have and hope to fill others with love and good feelings. We should never run away from death anymore than run to it, it comes when it comes. We should never make a person who is dieing feel like they are a burden to us but we should be happy for the time we have had , the time we will have and feel sadness for the time we wont have. We must never let the time we might of had have spoil the time we still have. Live life as always with its good and bad

Ats has so many wonderful thoughtful souls.

I love Just Mike's idea of a handwritten letter. All of the simple things I could not think of right now. That is beautiful and simple and very doable.

Thank you!!

As for my "light", well, I do love her. She has been my best friend for so long. Once I left home at 21, I never lived close by, but we stayed in touch through phone and mail, and now the internet. I see her each time I go to visit my parents and she is always excited to see me as I am her.

I just want to say you are the most amazing group of people. I love ATS when we can come together, feel sorrow for each other, offer helpful advice, and support.

You are all amazing and I thank God for each of you.

I wish there was a hug emoticon!

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Hi....I don't quite know what to make of your post (as far as you knowing me and all and me getting cancer from posting about Fukushima (?)).......... but thank you for the kind thoughts, and I will check out your threads.. I will reply there, as I don't want to distract from this lady's thread. Thanks for the kind words!

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Hi Mike!! It is sooooo good to hear from you again! You have made my day!

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Thanks Cody....you are a sweetheart.....Mrs C is one lucky lady!!!

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Yes....it's REALLY excruciating....but I HAVE to do the last 4 no matter what. Because the last time this happened they put me in the hospital and I missed 5 treatments...so we are playing catch up. uggggggh They did give me burn cream though,,,but it doesn't do much....even the morphine is like taking a baby aspirin .....I'll get through it though!
** goes to the fridge to get some cheese to go with my whine**

reply to post by k21968


Right back at ya sugar! You know, I was thinking about you this morning, and I had this idea.....this would give you something to focus on, and at the same time, create a great gift for her that she could leave to her kids. You could make a scrap book. Have a chapter just on her, then a chapter of you and her and your friendship, another chapter on her and her children etc, etc....you could use pictures, and draw things ....The very first page could be a personal letter to her telling her how much she has meant to you.
Oh....and I forgot to say....by doing this, you are NOT saying you give up on her......you are freeing her of any quilt she may be feeling for leaving everyone. And if a miracle happens, she can stash it away for another time.

reply to post by StealthyKat


You are entitled to whine. Whine away. You are in my thoughts and my prayers. I feel like I have a new friend and my mission is to take your mind off of your illness.

Hugs!

reply to post by StealthyKat

Thanks for the kind words!

Happy I could help,it will worth it, you will see and feel it,have little faith,and faith will give you back your health.

Miracles exists ,for those with a beautiful soul.