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Originally posted by CaticusMaximus
Im sorry for your loss.
Theres really nothing you could have done. You shouldnt beat yourself up, if you are. Im assuming the problem was an addiction. Addiction cannot be broken by any outside force discussable on ATS. It takes the force of will of the individual to conquer it from the inside, or to allow it to consume them.
Everyone has to make their own choices in life.
But dont worry.
Death isnt the end.
There are no ends in eternity.
Only new beginnings.
edit on 8/4/2013 by CaticusMaximus because: grammar
Originally posted by randyvs
reply to post by tinker9917
Remove yourself from any blame. No one can tell another man what to do.
It totally sucks so bad to lose a friend who's been close . Been there.
I feel for ya tinker.
Originally posted by Soloprotocol
Dont beat yourself up man, Dusty was his own man.
Lost a good friend this time last year to the very same thing, John was 46, stayed with him as long as i could, tried to help him without preaching and nursemaiding him, in the end he was dragging me down with him so i decided to take a back seat and leave it to phone calls.
People get Warnings and sometimes they decide that next drink is more important than the life they are living...Alcohol is an escape at least it was for John, he to was sober for 6 months and doing well, looking great but he very quickly forgot about the warnings he had had, the Doctors who pulled him back from deaths door and more importantly I dont think he thought about the family and friends he would leave behind. selfish,? sometimes i thought he was yes.
He had his flaws just like the rest of us,but previous mistakes in his life led him down a rocky road that was always going to end in heartache for all who loved him.
It was harder watching him drink himself to death than the actual end, because in my eyes he died the year before. His brilliant mind was gone, he was childlike in his thoughts and vocabulary...
Maybe after his couple of brushes with death he thought he was invincible. who knows.
I'll say this...Dusty made his own decisions and no-one was ever going to make those decisions for him.
At John's funeral i had people come up to me and ask if they were part of his downfall because they partied with John right up until he was admitted to hospital for the last time.
All i could say was this,
Whether you partied with him the for last time or the first time what does it matter, John died because John chose to Party with you, me and anyone else willing to party and refused professional help.
Sorry for your loss.
RIP Dusty and John.