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Those people? Just how much in the minority are they, that they have to be referred to as "those people"? And you used the word "phenomena". You just don't get how some people don't let society overly effect them do you?
Amazing. You're over thinking all of this, you really are. You also might want to start by not stating that your opinions are facts.
Perhaps I misunderstood, but it seems that is all you are refering to?
It depends upon what those around you value
I've noticed that the deepest values you were conditioned with first in life never really leave you- they are the bedrock you build yourself on
If you grew up in an environment that taught individual worth is based on intelligence, than no amount of praise for your looks as an adult will give you a sense of worth.
Originally posted by Astrocyte
Although intelligence is foremost, it's hyperbolic to say that a handsome or beautiful woman who is also intelligent wouldn't want to be handsome or beautiful. Just simply imagine a fairy god mother coming to you and giving you the option: would you like to become ugly? If they truly don't care, it wouldn't matter. Yes, or No. But I think most good looking people would be opposed to having themselves transform into an ugly person.
To state it bluntly, It's a good thing being good looking. But it's certainly not important enough to derive your whole sense of self from.
Originally posted by Bluesma
-But about what you are calling a "circularity of confidence", I simply call that "narcissism".
Their lack of recognition of others' blocks them from being influenced by the judgements of others about their person. Like being in a bubble.
I have a half brother who is a pathological narcissist, and it is a truly strange phenomenon.
Originally posted by NotAnAspie
Originally posted by Bluesma
-But about what you are calling a "circularity of confidence", I simply call that "narcissism".
Their lack of recognition of others' blocks them from being influenced by the judgements of others about their person. Like being in a bubble.
I have a half brother who is a pathological narcissist, and it is a truly strange phenomenon.
Perhaps being in a confidence bubble is indeed strange, but at least he didn't feel the need to pretend to be dumb because he knew he was too pretty.
No, seriously... a very well analyzed post.
Hilarious, but very enlightening.
Originally posted by Bluesma
Originally posted by NotAnAspie
Originally posted by Bluesma
-But about what you are calling a "circularity of confidence", I simply call that "narcissism".
Their lack of recognition of others' blocks them from being influenced by the judgements of others about their person. Like being in a bubble.
I have a half brother who is a pathological narcissist, and it is a truly strange phenomenon.
Perhaps being in a confidence bubble is indeed strange, but at least he didn't feel the need to pretend to be dumb because he knew he was too pretty.
No, seriously... a very well analyzed post.
Hilarious, but very enlightening.
Well, I don't know what you find so hilarious- my experience is a fairly common one, his is more rare, and isn't very funny for those near him who have to watch him go in and out of rehabs and prisons, living on the streets, unhealthy...
I guess I call it "strange" because impractical. If a way of thinking or behaving has a negative effect upon your ability to survive. My tactic was uncomfortable, but effective for survival and interaction with others,
his is destructive both to self and others. Well... at least he doesn't notice that.
edit on 21-7-2013 by Bluesma because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by NotAnAspie
Well from what you are saying now it seems his issue is much more serious than being in a confidence bubble.
I feel the need to stick up for that reaction of self preservation... and what I found funny... you have to admit, is that you made a pretty good sized post talking about how pretty you were and did put somewhat of a comical spin on it.
How is being in a bubble and not reacting to certain things from others landing him in prison? It sounds to me that he is indeed reacting to something external... so now I'm curious as to how this works exactly... in your opinion.
Originally posted by NotAnAspie
A lot of confident people are actually very insecure, try to ignore the opinions of others but are actually constantly reacting to things because of an unhealthy ego based on desperately seeking reasons to be confident, not true confidence. I'm not trying to pretend to know the guy... just throwing that out there as a possibility because the people close to someone who has a personality issue are generally the ones who effect them the most and to try looking at it from different perspectives could be helpful... if you find it strange and can't understand why he does it.
I'd like to hear your analysis of this.