Mods, feel free to move, if needed. This seemed the more appropriate place as Rant was close but didn't capture the tone I felt I needed here. It's
not a rant, but a reflection on decency or the lack thereof lately.
First, before I begin I need to say without qualification. I was wrong. I wasn't just a little wrong....I was spectacularly wrong.
When Hugo Chavez died, I joined in with a number of people who basically danced a Jig right over the top of plenty of other members who, in good faith
and sincerity, respected or thought well of him as a leader. Now I didn't much care at that moment because my feelings for that man ran SO far
opposite, I couldn't fathom someone respecting him and being genuine with the sentiment. I couldn't imagine ....they really meant that. If they did?
Well, they could deal with it while the rest of us had our moment of pleasure.
That extended across memorial threads and bash Chavez threads alike. There weren't much for boundaries respected or even recognized as I recall just
a short time ago.
I don't mind saying today that I'm a bit ashamed of myself and it took being among those that respected the Thatcher for, if NOTHING else, her
contribution with Reagan toward the fall of the Soviet Empire through I period of time I lived through to recall personally.
So, it is, with hat in hand ..I come to admit just how wrong and misguided that had been. It took another member calling me a hypocrite on the
Thatcher outrage to realize ....I couldn't argue him. I couldn't deny it ...and that hurt deeply to face in myself. I have literally BEEN what I was
so angry AT and so very recently, too. (TheCompte, I figure you intended no favors in calling me out for what I've become in some ways....but you did
me a favor beyond what you could have figured)
That brings me to my second point in writing this today. I'd like to point out a couple things, as I've come to consider them carefully since that
#1. Respect for the dead, isn't the point. Respect for a person's life or accomplishments, isn't the point. I have neither for Chavez..and never
will. That, however, didn't make it right to tear up and crap on the people who DID and at the moment of his passing at that. Respect for the leader
or figure simply isn't what matters or ever should, in my (revised) opinion.
#2. Carrying hate to the extent that it came out against Hugo and again against Margaret by people like myself and others who never personally knew
either and understand NO man (or woman) is an island to act in isolation, is toxic. It's toxic to the one holding it and it's toxic to everyone
around them when the cork is popped for it to spew forth. Again..in my humble opinion.
#3. Finally...the most important thing I've come to realize in a couple troubled days of considering this among other very serious real world issues
I'm dealing with right now, is simply this. It IS about respect for EACH OTHER, not the name or face in the news. It IS about some basic decency
toward the feelings, beliefs and overall worldview of others who DO see the world very differently. Particularly on a site like ATS where we have die
hard capitalists, moderate socialists and die hard communists existing among a mix of EVERYTHING in between.
I didn't and perhaps couldn't fully appreciate or understand what the 'dance' we all did over Chavez actually felt like to those we did it OVER.
If I'd stopped reveling for a moment to consider it, I should have ...and that is where that bit of shame comes in. I couldn't be bothered to.
Likewise the other direction now with a former leader of England.
So, it's with as much a hope for forgiveness as a plea for consideration that I say, think about the impact words can have. To as well as from each
of us. Mere words CAN carry the force of a slap across the face and the challenge of a kick to the family jewels. They most certainly can......without
regard to side they come from. When said in hate, hate is all that will be returned.
Last, perhaps it's equally important to remember, the target of our feelings is dead. THEY can't hear, be bothered by or CARE what anyone left
behind has to say or think. ONLY those still here can find joy or pain in what is being said after the fact. We only hurt each other ...not those we
rightly, in each of our individual worldviews, see as a problem of the past. ....for past it is, once they pass.
- A morose and sorry Rabbit.