posted on Oct, 24 2004 @ 12:58 PM
We hate parents (I'm not overestimating that) because you are overprotective and don't think we can handle ourselves at all. We think we could rule
the world flawlessly and be perfect in every way and you guys are only holding us back because you are being paranoid. That is where the struggle
Parents should let kids be themselves to an extent, just so they can learn the hard way. If they won't go to bed on time, they will have ugly dark
circles under their eyes, and will definately be insulted at school. It happened to me, and I go to bed no later than 8:30 on school nights since
But for some things, they have to be held back. Smoking, sex, or vandalism is stuff to be punished for, but try to do so without yelling or fighting.
If we yell, just keep your cool and talk in a calm manner. That's what really scares us: the ability to be tough enough not to be afraid or
frightened by a violent teenager.
You said you're single? Did you divorce, or was it a death? That may be the cause of stress within your daughter. Just try to talk to her about it,
and ask her what would be some fun things to do together, like the theater, amusement park, etc. Just make sure you don't say "Were going to
(whatever, whenever) and you're coming with me.", ask her if she would like to join you, because the other way only makes her think she's a
worthless human being forced around by her parent to do normally fun things that are now not fun, because of you.
I hope this can help, and I've had countless struggles with my parents as well, but experience is the key to success!
[Edited on 10/24/04 by diehard_democrat]