Stay at home women degrade the status of women in our society.

While listening to a radio personality reading an article from a feminist who says women who “stay home” are 1%’ers who drag other women down and lower female status, I had to sit down and listen.

I had just finished vacuuming and dusting our 2200 sq foot house; mopping the wood and tile floors; and doing 3 loads of laundry. As I was preparing to clean the bathrooms and kitchen I listened as a woman said I was “kept” and not making a valuable contribution to society since I’m not a professional paid housekeeper.

I have to admit this was my “housecleaning day”, so what about the rest of the week. Well, I cook for my husband and I and take a meal over to my Mom every day. But that’s not work, is it? After all I’m not a professional chef.

Since I’m a grandma I have to admit I don’t have children at home. My senior executive daughter does “real” work, so when her kids get sick, I care for them, that’s not work is it? When the kids need to be driven to things outside of school, I drive them, but that’s not work. It would only be work if my daughter paid me to be a nanny and nurse, but since I stay at home and don’t really work, it’s not real work is it? When my husband or Mom are ill I stay with them and care for them until they recover. But that’s not work, unless I was a certified nursing assistant.

Well, the kids aren’t always sick or need chauffeuring around, so I really am kept aren’t I? I guess the quilts I make for the women in shelters and the homeless and for camps for foster kids, that’s not work. After all no one buys my quilts so that’s not real work, I’m just a kept woman who goes out to lunch with the quilt guild once a week.

Oh, tomorrows task? Mowing and trimming our lawn and my mother’s lawn. Hope the aggressive spraying I’ve done in our and Mom’s garden has rid them of the beetles, but I digress. No that’s not work, that’s being kept since I’m not a paid gardener.

My husband does the real work and keeps me. So when he calls me to run an errand for him that he doesn’t have time to do since he works, that’s being kept. When I buy the groceries and shop for bargains to save us money, that’s being kept, not real work. When I search for replacement parts for broken or lost items, that’s not work. When I buy special bargains to take to a local shelter for the mentally challenged isn’t work, is it? Unless I was a personal shopper, but I’m not, I’m kept.

So I guess she is right, I’m just a kept woman who degrades the role of women in the world. Especially since at one time I was a college professor who now stays home to take care of 3 generations. What a bad example I set for other women.

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stay at home women are starting to be seen in the same light as stay at home men.

Welcome to equality..

Isn't saying that a modern woman should be doing the 9-5 grind, paying bills and whatever else just as sexist and repressive as a man saying a woman's place is at home?

In my opinion, as long as the woman in question makes the choice for herself, anything goes. It's the people who believe you should be doing a specific thing based on your sex, sexual orientation, race, creed, color or religion who is the oppressor.

Funny how this particular feminazi has become what she hates.

I dated one of these women for a while. Cant stand em. I kicked her to the curb when it became obvious she wasnt lookin for a job. It was kinda funny though.

Why should i work my life away while you do nothing? I make double the wages id get at walmart. I also work 80 hours a week and never go home. Id rather we both worked at freakin walmart.

Wasn't the point of the feminist movement meant to give weight and value to the decisions women make for themselves? Decisions that were to be validated and accepted as legitimately as men's decision were? If true, then women who choose to stay at home are (and should be) as valued as those who choose to pursue careers. The whole point was choice...

ETA: femi-nazis are not representative of the majority, as with many typically polarizing groups, they're just the loudest.

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While listening to a radio personality reading an article from a feminist who says women who “stay home” are 1%’ers who drag other women down and lower female status

By that logic men who stay at home are uplifting women, raising all female status by loafing and eating bond bonds and watching his "programs"

Peg bundy move over Im gonna help the women's lib movement.

There was a time one adult in a household earned enough to pay all the bills, keep a mortgage, run two cars and have at least one vacation a year. No two adults working can barely achieve all of the above.

It seems to me the feminist agenda has been hijacked by corporations to raise the labour pool and depress wages.

Its my opinion that the feminest movement fell right into a trap set for them by jealous men. Men fooled them into thinking that they could only be of value if they went into the world and worked at a job making money as a wage slave for some fat cat capitalist.

People are no longer viewed as people anymore, only as resources in a grand economy to be used up and thrown away when they are no longer of any use to the big corporations. Society only views people as having any value if they produce money for their oppressive overlords.

You are no longer a person, you are only an economic unit. Welcome to the wonderful world of capitalism.

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Thank you, grandmakdw, for adding to the constant insults to feminism to make yourself feel better. Some of us feminists have general philosophies which are not so easily dismissed.

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There is NO greater responsibility in ALL of one's life than to raise CHILDREN.

I personally applaud ALL stay at home MOMs for their commitment to the NEXT generation!

...hopefully they aren't as hateful as this generation

(btw its okay to be a prostitute, gay, transvestite but DAMN you if you raise you KIDS!)

In our household (due to me being self employed and my wife being employed), I am a bit of a "stay at home" dad, and have been for the last 2 years (work in the later afternoon/evening)

My son starts nursery in September and the in laws will take him in the afternoon.

This has been the best and most rewarding 2 years of my life and I do not feel like I have devalued men in society- how the hell can I represent millions of men, I am just me, an individual, who was blessed to have spent quality time with his kids.

This feminist is a complete clown

People who buy that drivel are why women are so looked down upon in our society and were treated as second class citizens until relatively recently. Stay at home women (and men more and more these days) contribute as much to society as their working spouses do. It's just not there in everybody's faces, and that's why it's overlooked.

Feminists are the ones who are ruining the image of women all around the world.

What you do is completely legitimate and in no way effects the status of any other woman in the world, to say that it does is complete lunacy.

These feminists have no idea what they are doing, poisoning the minds of females and males a like.

They should be egalitarians and allow women to make their own choices, along with men about how they think they should be treated, how they should live their lives and how it's nobody else's business but your own what you do with it.

~Tenth

I worked for 20 years while raising my 22 & 20 yr old (alone), for 8 of those years. By the way, they still live with us. Married the 2nd hubs, went on to have 2 more kids (boys, now 7 & 11). Long story short, left the hubs home
for a full day with the kids, when I returned home to a partially destroyed house with the hubs laying in the middle of the floor, he says, " how do you do this day in & day out! I am glad I'm at work all day!!" Some don't understand all the running around, cleaning up, etc. that goes into actually staying home when raising a family....

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My husband used to work 80 hours per week and now only works about 40 or 50 because of different circumstances. When we both worked, he took care of the lawn, ran his own errands and did a lot of household chores, since I was working also.

Now that I am caring for 3 generations and staying home, he no longer has to do the lawn. He does work in the garden for fun, but I take care of whatever he doesn't want to do because I have the time. I take the cars in to be worked on, a job he used to do. He now comes home to a home cooked meal at the time of his choosing. His job requires a lot of nights so he tells me when he wants to eat as it fits into his schedule. Saves a great deal of money eating out, you wouldn't believe how much. Plus he gets to put his feet up after eating before going back to work.
He now gets to come home and relax, I feel it is not right for him to do 1/2 the housework anymore since I'm home. We spend much more quality time together than ever before. We also get to spend time with the grandkids that would be taken up doing chores if we were both working full time.

It works for us! He is actually much happier and I feel fulfilled helping out Mom, my daughter, the grandkids and helping those who need it.

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No. Feminists are the ones who demand economic equality.

Wish I could afford for my lady to stay at home but I just don't earn enough. I think having your children around the parents is invaluable, many people dont get the time for this with work etc. I see my daughter for about an hour through the week which is not nice but I have to pay the bills. I'm just glad my lady is able to to be with our daughter for 4 days out the week Massive respect & nicely worded.

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I'd like to say too that I and many other men actually like the idea of working to support our family... Its also great coming home and your tea's just sat there waiting, like clock work - I dont know how you do it

Originally posted by phroziac
I dated one of these women for a while. Cant stand em. I kicked her to the curb when it became obvious she wasnt lookin for a job. It was kinda funny though.

Why should i work my life away while you do nothing? I make double the wages id get at walmart. I also work 80 hours a week and never go home. Id rather we both worked at freakin walmart.

What kind of life is that, though?

That is not living.

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I always hear these sorts of stories and I say to myself.
Feminism can be just as bad to women and they say that men are.

This is a free country and if a woman chooses not to work then that's her decision to make.
No one should be coming in and second guessing you.

I wish that I made more money so that my wife could stay home.
She wishes the same thing.