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Originally posted by g146541
reply to post by supine
I do not really believe in the forgiving idea.
Sometimes it is nice to just choke slam someone who desperately needs it.
Vengeance is mine sayeth the ...blah blah blah
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LOl, I have a counselor who tells me that to fantasize in so many ways is normal, as long as you would never do it....
A letting go sort of thing....really I wish nobody harm while wanting to see them at their worst. This is all about that...what you wish but really don't mean.
Like a journal you keep. Words written but never to send.
Originally posted by proof-would-be-good
reply to post by supine
Agreed. So many have been convinced to believe that by saying "I forgive you" it’s over and done. Hold on a minute. Those words do not remove the scar of the event that will live with the person that was harmed. Oh sure, they might get to the point where they'll eventually forget "what it was about" but not always. The emotional scar like a physical one will leave a mark and depending on the type of harm done that mark can hurt from time to time.
I was sold that "package" of saying "I forgive you,” until I realized that it simply let the other person off the hook and I was left hurting from what was done. And while we are spending our energies "forgiving,” the culprits continue to repeat their actions on others. So what have they learned? Nothing.
This is how I like to deal with being tossed under the bus:
I'd just rather forget what was done and let the other live with their conscience, if they ever had one.
Originally posted by absolutely
reply to post by supine
for giving is about giving up urself rights, as a choice, never about giving others anything
it is what i say and like what i do, what is right mean first truth and what mean truth know that the sense of being cant b but through superiority, so it knows how to give its own self right to objective superior right,
give up, give what is objectively higher, get up
when u give what is objectively higher by ur own self freedom then what lower touched u as being above u is screwed
a word has no significance at all but from truth perspective that realized it in positive absolute result, which is the principal value of truth, freedom at one side and positive always objectively since true
Originally posted by supine
reply to post by AQuestion
This isn't a rant. We all deal with people day to day. Some toss you under the bus, even those who love you, if it's a benefit to do so.
You toss people under the bus, too, and if you don't admit to it, you're lying.
So, with that said, carry on.....
Originally posted by AQuestion
Dear supine,
Actually, I feel no need to toss anyone under the bus. If I admitted to tossing people under the bus I would be lying. Sorry you say that you do.
I have very little to say about my ex-wife, she did me wrong; but, when she needed my help I gave it even though it did not benefit me. I would have helped her even if harming her would have benefited me and she knew it, which is why she asked for my help. There are enough liars and angry people in the world, there is no shortage, we don't all have to be that way.
But, you do, and will do. Suppose the bus was heading towards yourself or somebody you love. There is your answer.
Originally posted by tetra50
. Without that, I believe, you are destined to only find relief in giving someone else the same pain. So, it is once again, how will you react, and what will you let that make of you?
Do you become what you have suffered, and like who has tortured you, or do you transcend that.....edit on 3-12-2011 by tetra50 because
Thank you so much for sharing how you coped with being under the bus and how you dealt with it...first honest reply in the bunch.
Blessings to you. extra DIV