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Writing a good online dating message is one of the best things that you can do to increase your success in online dating. Before a person sees your picture, or visits your profile, the first thing that they will notice is your message. Are you funny? Boring? The same as every other message? Are you talking to them directly or is this another one of your mass emails to hundreds of other women? Basically, is this someone I want to invest my time responding to? All of these things can be determined by your very first online dating message. Here are a few tips to help you stand out of the crowd.
Have a sense of humor.
Even if you’re not a funny person, try to be anyway. Humor is a universal attractive switch. Think about it. If you have the choice of being with someone who has a sense of humor, and someone who doesn’t, who will you pick? Exactly. Just remember to keep it obvious that you’re joking. Telling a girl that her outfit reminds you of something your grandmother would wear online isn’t the same as saying it with a smile offline. So, save the questionable teasing for later, but definitely do try to make her smile.
Do not compliment them on their looks.
As a guy, one of the worst things you can do is compliment a woman about her looks right off the bat. Your attitude should be that beauty is common, and that you’re interested in her as a person. Often women will get the impression that you’re only interested in sex, even if your intent was just to be “nice.” The same holds true for you women. Talking about looks in an initial online dating message comes across as being vain. Instead, compliment them on something they’re wearing, and if you can make it funny, even better.
For instance: I couldn’t help noticing those sweet heart shaped glasses that you’re wearing. You know, I used to have a pair myself but they went missing a few days ago. Oh my god, I just realized what happened, you stole them didn’t you!? . . . continued at source