I had a falling out with a girl that I hoped that I could be friends with last semester and we ran out of things to talk about because we couldn't
find a common ground with each of us. Our politics were different... we had a different personality from each other (I am more of an intellectual,
hard to please person, and she is really easy to please.
I think the problem with the relationship was that we ran out of things to talk about. I made one final push to try to "save the friendship" so to
say, but I kind of made the mistake about trying to go about getting to know her around her friends, as opposed to on a one on one individual level,
so she only thought that we were getting along because of that, as opposed to whatever individual personality characteristics I possess.
I know I've had problems with friends last semester and with some girls... but I'm trying to do things a bit differently this semester. What I've
found is that having a common interest with someone else really helps the friendship. So, you don't just have to talk about small-talk, in order to
move the conversation along. Like I have one friend who really likes politics, so we get along fine, I have another friend who likes anime and shows
I like, so that helps a lot with her... I know a girl that likes to read, and I like to read as well, so like we kind of have a similar interest, I am
friends with another girl who likes baseball, and like we are able to talk about other things as well... and I know one guy that I can talk to about
movies and books. So, it really helps having a common interest with someone else. It's made certain relationships that I've had much easier.
My problem lies with other people who might just want to be around me or get to know me because I'm nice. I've been around these people before, but,
if I don't have some common interest with the other person my relationship or friendship with them seems to fall apart. I've been seeking out people
more with a common interest this jan-term semester, and I find that it really helps. I've also found a group of people that I hang out with that seem
to have similar styles of humor/similar personalities to me, so like we naturally get along with each other even though I've only known them for like
But, my problem lies with these other people. I don't know what to do if I'm in a situation where someone else doesn't have the same interests as I
do, or some similar interests that I do. What I like to do now is to try to find some common ground so I can have something to talk about... but like
I don't want to be in the same position where I was last semester, where I talked to some people, and we ended up running out of things to talk
Can anyone help me? I just want to know what to so if I attempt to befriend other people like the girl that was previously in question, that I won't
make the same mistake. Like this semester I've been more successful at making friends... but I fear I might make the same mistake, so to say in the
edit on 17-1-2011 by Frankidealist35 because: (no reason given)