posted on Jul, 16 2009 @ 03:47 PM
Well, yes...any woman could claim you as the father, unbeknown to you, and you could be legally liable.
When the woman takes the case to Court with a Motion to Establish Paternity, the named Defendant is provided a Summons. If they ignore the Summons, or
do not receive it or notice it when posted in a Public Place (usually the Legal section of the Classified Ads in the local newspaper and at the Court
House), a Summary Judgment can be entered, establishing the Defendant as the Paternal Parent with a Order for Child Support.
Likewise, even if you do contest it when a Motion to Establish Paternity is filed against you, you don't have to be the biological parent to be
financially liable for Child Support. If you date a woman with a child, and take care of that child while the two of you are dating, even for but a
month, you could become legally liable just as an ex-boyfriend. The only recourse you have would be to find the "real" biological father and sue
them in Civil Court (not Family Court) for compensation for the Child Support you are paying which they should be paying.
And the Federal Government takes Child Support very seriously.
The mother of my daughter was awarded $750/month + $380/month for Health Insurance even though I have primary Custody of my daughter. Her lawyer
couldn't figure out how to file the Court Order with the State so that this money could be withheld. He took me to Court over it twice, and each time
the Judge told her lawyer it wasn't my responsibility but his and that if he is that incompetent that he should consider retiring early. In the end
it was a dirty lawyer trick. The lawyer purposely withheld filing the paperwork until the back Child Support exceeded the Federal limit and my
Passport was canceled by the US Government Department of State and it became a Felony for me to travel outside of my own State. Thankfully, when it
was clear what her lawyer was doing, the Judge dismissed all back payments and amended the Court Order to make payments concurrent to when her lawyer
actually filed the paperwork.
Still, at $1130/month, all it takes is two months of Unemployment before I am considered a "dead beat Dad" even though I am the primary
caregiver/custodial parent to my daughter. If I lost my job and did not immediately find one that could afford paying that kind of Child Support I
could be facing Jail Time in short order.
There are dead-beat dads in the world and they are the scum of the earth (along with the lawyers and the politicians and used-car salesmen), but
dead-beat dads are not as common as dead-beat moms who abandon their children. Statistically, men are actually more likely to stick around to take
care of their young than women are in this day and age. Too bad that neither the Courts nor Society are able to see it even if it is a daily
appearance in the Mainstream Media to show yet another mother who abandons her children or kills them because she doesn't want to take care of them.