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Originally posted by MCoG1980
Man, you need to get out of that relationship, been there, done that, not good, 8 years later no change. They turn it around to make YOU feel bad, and even sorry for them, don't fall for it, they KNOW they are doing this, they are aware. As long as you let them, they will keep doing it. Your Vulnerability and your love is all they need to pray on, and they will.
I am quite concerned for you now dude, seriously, it isn't worth it, he doesn't respect you. YOU are worth more, and DESERVE better. Sometimes you need to respect yourself and you owe it to yourself to be with someone who respects you.
Ever want a chat just u2U me, feel for you mate.
Originally posted by codex code
Question: after 20 yrs of marriage why did he recently acted out so violently?
I'm lost on that one.
I can't point the finger entirely at alcohol, and I can't say that I've ever been the aggressor. We've only very rarely even argued in the past, but something changed in the last year.
Have you asked about the cause of him lashing out on you?
He says he's sorry and blames it on being drunk at the time.
In many ways I feel the alcohol just allows him to speak what's really on his mind.
Did any of his/ your friends noticed any changes?
Yeah, a few people took me aside and warned me to be careful.
As things changed over the last while people have mentioned it to me.
Originally posted by John Matrix
Originally posted by anxietydisorder
Originally posted by codex code
Question: after 20 yrs of marriage why did he recently acted out so violently?
I'm lost on that one.
I can't point the finger entirely at alcohol, and I can't say that I've ever been the aggressor. We've only very rarely even argued in the past, but something changed in the last year.
Have you asked about the cause of him lashing out on you?
He says he's sorry and blames it on being drunk at the time.
In many ways I feel the alcohol just allows him to speak what's really on his mind.
What's going on with this.
Originally posted by John Matrix
I'm interested in what you have to say..........
Originally posted by americandingbat
I think I saw that post earlier, and it was basically just saying that he thought you should have been clearer in your OP that you were both men, and that he thought you had left him open to embarrassment because he assumed that you were a woman being abused by a man.
Originally posted by anxietydisorder
But not a single entry for men going through spousal abuse.
I've found a marriage councilor that takes gay couples, he's also gay, but he just seems to be bringing up all the dirt and our relationship is worse.
On March 1st we'll have been together for 20 years, and now it's falling apart.