posted on Nov, 30 2008 @ 05:15 PM
I'd definitely agree with the ones above, for the most part.
I'll also add in that I, myself, have experienced what you're talking about, with the added benefit of finally, after rational talks, was able to
get my mother to see certain truths about the ways she had been thinking and raised up to be. We have a wonderful relationship, now, and can have
really good discussions on any topic.
Saying that to give you some hope. My mom and I went through some serious hell with it all, but my being calm and rational with it all, I think, is
what broke through to her in the end. She realized that she didnt "raise no heathen", like I had heard her say to me once too often.
instead, she realizes that she raised someone who is capable of standing on their own, and to hold strong against even the toughest odds. In the end,
she realizes just how strong I turned out to be, and is glad for it.
As the others above have said, don't let these things hurt you. I know it does, and that can sound superficial, but try really hard not to take it
personally. Realize that there are some people out there, including ones who are extremely close to us, who just can NOT "un-conform". It is too
deeply ingrained into their mindsets and entire psychology. And they can NOT, under any circumstances, put themselves into the place of someone who
can do that. Unable to empathize in any way. That is not a fault of yours, it is theirs, and that kind of psychology really is unhealthy.
Remember, as well, that many people who are of that older generation, by a large degree, lived in a time when things changed much more slowly than
they do now, and that affected how their mind became set, as well. You're about the same age as I am, and my parents are of a similar generation to
your mother; mine are a bit older,, but still, same generational line, in essence.
A lot of folks from that time are just incapable of keeping up with the massive amount of changes that occur these days. Of course some may argue
that things changed just as rapidly back then, and that may be, but our PERCEPTIONS of the changes are now much more than they were then, especially
since the advent of the internet.
Anyhow.. point is, just bear with it, and realize that she is doing nothing more than some skeptics you encounter elsewhere may react like. The only
difference is, it's your mom, not some random stranger on the internet, or a friend, or something. And that causes the perception of the hurt to be
that much more. The words and the jabs and arguments against "your ways" are one and the same. Only difference is who is saying it.
So take into yourself the same attitude that you would have towards her, as you would for anyone else who says the same. Acknowledge and move on.
[edit on 30-11-2008 by Jomina]