Good evening friends and foes,
Tonight I write with a heavy heart regarding an issue that is near and dear to me but now puts myself and my children in a grey area of this issue.
I for one am totally against warrantless wiretaps by the government as they are now allowed by the patriot act. I understand the issues this
represents and the destruction of our freedoms this causes.
Unfortunately I know find myself on the other side of this issue based on some events that are occurring in my life.....
Through many counselling sessions we have determined that my wife is a controlling verbal abuser for a definition of what this means look below
Controlling People: Controllers use verbal abuse to subtly undermine their victim's perceptions, to manipulate them into doing what they want, to
foster dependency, to isolate them from truth, from outside contact and even from their own children. They may withhold information while lying to
their victim.. Controllers create confusion, emotional pain and mental anguish, while periodically "rescuing" their victim by seeming to offer the
balm of love that alleviates the victim's pain drawing the victim ever closer. Controllers gain and maintain power over people while often presenting
a perfect persona to the world.
This definition fits my wife to a "T" always maintaining and bending over backwards to appear as this perfect person while in private mistreating
and abusing the ones she supposedly loves.
To make a long story short in order to capture evidence of this for a divorce and to protect my children I began recording phone conversations and
general audio in my home. Boy oh boy what did I find?
Many occurrences of her cussing at, screaming, at and calling my children names I wouldn't call my worst enemy. On top of that on the tapes I heard
her talking with a friend about shoplifting and stealing. I have over a dozen conversations which include talking about which stores are easiest to
shoplift from, changing prices tags, and plans for a shoplifting excursion on a planned visit with her friend.
As a result I hired a private investigator to follow her on her trip. Guess what happened? The PI watched as the woman went into stores with empty
bags then would come out and unload them into the truck and go back again, and again. Towards the end of the Day the PI had had enough of this and
when they went into Target she informed store security who promptly began watching them. They ended up busting my wife and friend for shoplifting and
switching tags and both got arrested. Both my children as well as my wife’s friend’s child were with them at the time. Both got thrown into jail
and charged with various counts.
I promptly filed for divorce and as it turns out all the recordings I made are inadmissible as evidence because of wiretap laws so all I have is the
PI's testimony. My wife is bending over backwards to get phony character statements from friends, a written affidavit from her friend saying she had
nothing to do with the shoplifting and trying to turn the whole situation around on me as if I am the horrible one for trying to take my children away
Why can the government do warrantless wiretaps for "suspected" terrorists but I cannot record in my own private home to protect my children. Where
is the justice in this screwed up world?
Thoughts, considerations, anybody have any novel approaches to get these tapes allowed into evidence?
Thanks for your replies