posted on Apr, 15 2007 @ 01:51 AM
Two nights ago my fiance and I were having a discussion about our mutual engaged friends. Our female friend has decided to not change her last name at
all since it "is too much of a hassle" ... furthermore she wants their children to have a hyphenated name. We both thought that children having a
hyphenated name was a little strange. Well, myself more than my fiance. See the kicker is, we're due to have our first child in September, and
wouldn't you know, the damndest thing happened.
I get a call at work from my fiance. She just had lunch with her dad. She calls with the strangest request...starting with "Honey please dont get
mad," so naturally I go into defensive mode. Her father has asked her to "talk it over with me" about hyphenating not only her name, but our soon
to be child's name. My initial reaction was "What! Are you crazy!" considering we just had a conversation about this two days ago. However, things
are a little complicated. Her fathers reasoning is that since she is the only child, he feels like that side of the family will be left out without
some signifier that they are a part of our family...OK I say...and?
I suppose this was a good enough reason for my fiance because she pulled an executive order on me and it has been decided...so it shall be done...our
baby's name will be hyphenated.
So what is everyone take on this? Is it absurd? Not a big deal? In a way, to me, it seems intrusive. He has his family let me have mine. What happens
if our child marries someone who wants to keep their last name also? Or is this just another example of male egotism gone awry (on his part I
mean...or maybe both)