posted on Sep, 27 2006 @ 09:00 AM
perhaps a refresher in the words of E.A. Poe " Oh what a tangeled web we weave
when first we practice to decieve."
Think about that a while and the web of deciet and mistrust you have started and where the end might be. It could end in the destruction of this
Now on to the real situation here. You said that everybody was not "mad at her" when In fact many (including yourself if I read your post right)
What right do or anyone else have to be angry with or at this person because THEY
made a choice? You can and do have a right to feel disappointment, maybe let down,
confusion,questioning/ maybe even displeasure, etc. But anger is a useless and anti productive emotion/reaction in this situation. All of us, Each
and every one of us has at
some point made decisions that we regret. If you havent you have never been any where or done anything.
There are somethings in life that no amount of telling from others can replace experiencing them. two that come to mind are combat and buying a car.
no matter how much hype the advertisements put out until YOU actually sit in the drivers seat and feel how the seat feels,experience the leg room
behind the drivers seat, how and where the various controls are you just dont know if that particular vehicle is for you.
Combat is an entire different world. No matter how well trained and prepared you are you just dont know until that first bullet just passes your ear
or your buddys
guts are splattered all over your breakfast.
Now back to the current situation. Your friend made a decision now she has to decide if it was the right one or the wrong one for Her. That is
something only SHE can decide. And She will sooner or later have to take the responsibility for it.
Now we come to the Decisions and actions YOU(and your Friends) took and made in response to her situation.
From what you have said many if not all of your initial reactions was to get "mad".
from this point I am going to generalize and using basic human nature theorize the course of events.
After your(this is a collective you/your) initial anger thought ran something like this
"how could she be so stupid? how could she ..., how could she.... and lastly how could she do this to ME, I..."
So instead of approaching your friend with true trust,friendship, and caring YOU chose instead to LIE to her. Instead of seeking and finding her
thoughts about the decision he made YOU chose( thats right you made the consious
decision ) to lie. Now you can look forward to somepoint in the future when the lie is revealed, how will it affect the trust that She has / had in
Perhaps a better answer would have been, " I cant speak for the others, But I am concerned about your decision. Can we talk about it?" This would
of course required
you putting down the gameboy or xbox and actually getting involved in life.