Does anyone say Thank You anymore?

a reply to: nugget1

I too am an advanced quilter, but unlike you I only give them to close close family members.
I do both machine and hand piecing, and quilting but put way too much time and effort into them. I worked in textiles early on in my life and really enjoyed it. I’d love to see some of your works.

I am currently working on a grandmothers flower garden quilt with gate. It’s quite the undertaking. It is all hand pieced and will be hand quilted too. You don’t even want to know how many years I’ve been working on it!
When I give this to my daughter there better be a thank you or I will absolutely bring the switch out!!!!🤣

I may be overpolite. Example: Whenever I order food I will say "May I please have..." and "Thank you!"

It's probably just because I hate people when they are not polite.

It sounds like you would be more at home in East Tennessee or Alabama. Mostly we haven’t forgotten our manners.

a reply to: Grenade

Absolutely. I agree 100%!

a reply to: JAGStorm
Here you go! lol


Like you, I have learned to be very selective of who I gift my quilts to. This one was many years in the making, and I'd rather burn it than gift it to someone who'll treat it like a WM blanket. I labeled it "Never again; What was I thinking?"

I now make easy 'comfort quilts' for those I'm not sure will appreciate the many, many hours that go into a complex quilt.

I have never been able to hand piece or hand quilt( genetic defect) and have always thought of those who do as 'true' quilters. My hat is off to you!

I go overboard on being polite for several reasons. To me it's more akin to a 'social experiment'.

One: There are those like yourself that were raised such and they do appreciate the 'niceties'.

Two: To see if they have any response, as many don't ever say your welcome.. they'll say "No Problem". "No Problem" and "Your Welcome" are entirely two different responses. I'd like to duct tape shut the guy/gal that said lets say "No problem" instead of your welcome.

Three: The look in their eyes of the 'proverbial' Deer in the Headlights as they wonder, "Why is he talking to me".... "What should I do".

Four: It makes me feel good because if something goes south, the respectful person is more likely to slide away/off without an altercation.

Even if I get bumped into by someone else (and it's their fault), I will apologize for not seeing them... The looks I get are of confusion.. Some (if they have company/friends with them), will puff up and say something 'stupid'' like.. "Well you need to watch where your going"! And I'll respond 'yes you are correct'. And inside I know that I'm still in the right... what's the need for getting pushed all out of shape on some thing so trivial.

But these are changing times as we are being programmed to be just another number and not a name. A name should get respect, a number will not get that. The agenda seems to be leaning towards a World with little to no human contact.


But the short answer is yes, people are not as considerate as they/we once were (imho).
Johnny

Being decent to others cost nothing, takes little effort, and can pay big dividends.
There's definitely some who should try it sometime. It won't hurt or get you wet.

a reply to: nugget1

Wow nugget1 that's absolutely beautiful!

If someone gifted me that I'd hang it on a wall, I could get lossed for hours staring at it. Thanks for sharing 🙂

a reply to: JAGStorm

I actually make it a point to say thank you in a majority of my interactions...especially when its with a stranger or people in service jobs. I also make it a point to smile, make eye contact, and say hi when I walk past people in the street. Go figure I tend to hold the door too lol. I don't see a lot of that out west especially in vegas...even in my neck of town away from the touristy areas. I grew up in the south though so manners and friendly greetings were more of a norm.

a reply to: JAGStorm

Thank you for posting this!

Hopefully it will wake some up to say it more often.

👍

a reply to: JAGStorm
Plenty of people say thank you but don't mean it...some don't say thank you but they feel gratitude in their heart

There was a wonderful nun at my old Catholic school who was the sweetest, most loving human being you could ever meet.
She once told us that when you die and appear before St Peter, the only thing he asks is "Were you kind?"

a reply to: JAGStorm

It might be where you live or the people you associate with.

I hear thank you a lot and say it all the time and it doesn't seem to bother anyone.

a reply to: RickyD

Yeah, service jobs I especially like to say thank you to. I did my share in that purgatory and I know how people tend to treat you. They usually deserve thank you, and it usually produces results too.

a reply to: nugget1

Spectacular.

a reply to: Hiram33

Express yourself as NWA put it.

In those miniscule moments of time strangers share with each other would you rather them share fake aspirations or an honest frown?

Chances are you'll never meet again.

Not only do I say "please", "thank you", "yes ma'am" or "yes sir" I also smile and wave at people when I'm crossing the street and hold doors open for random strangers.

They're small gestures of kindness and respect, and bring a bit of sunshine into a cold bleak world.

a reply to: JAGStorm

Thank you for posting. Yes, I do. I hold doors open for everyone and it pisses off the wife too...

originally posted by: JAGStorm
I think I was born in the wrong time period.
I am definitely more suited for polite society.

Over the last few years I noticed that people rarely say thank you.
I am absolutely aware that you should not do things only to generate a thank you response, however that being said, it sure would be nice.

I’ll give some examples.
A loooong time friend said their child was having a hard time and asked for cards/etc for their birthday.
A lot of us sent gifts etc, and there was no acknowledgment or thank you.
Another friend asked for advice in an area that I’m an expert in. I gave a few hours of my time. The friend took credit for the project with ZERO thanks or acknowledgement of help.
Helped another friend with ONE condition, only one and they broke it. I did not charge for something that is normally very expensive.
I was really disappointed because they understood and agreed to the condition. (To not tell others I did it so I wouldn’t be solicited for free again, which I was)

Now here is where it gets WEIRD.
I find when I myself do say thank you people get weirded out. Maybe because they are so used to not hearing it.
For example.
When a gentleman opens a door for me, quickly say thank you. Some are very taken aback.
When a friend goes out of their way, I acknowledge it and say thank you. It is often met with silence.
If someone gives me a gift no matter how small I say thank you, I was told by one friend that friends don’t say thank you. WHAT? Is that really a thing?

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To truly give requires no thanks. Unless a thank you is why you're giving.

sounds like your friends are a bunch of ding dongs.