Always feel like an alien

Does anyone else always feel like an alien?
I mean wherever I go , whoever I'm with (even closest family) I will feel like an alien.
Except for when I'm with my son and ex (they have both said the same)

I feel like I can't relate to most people, and whatever they are talking about it sounds so unimportant/petty to me.
Not to say that I'm not interested in what's going on with loved ones and their thoughts/feelings etc, that does matter to me,
it's just I feel this huge gap ?

I'm also obsessed with UFOs/aliens, who knows

You may have autism. Mention it to your doctor next time you go for a check-up.

a reply to: ancientlight

Maybe the problem isn't with you. Maybe the topics really are banal and pedestrian.

a reply to: ancientlight

Why do you want to relate so much?



Relationships of any kind work both ways. I keep away from a**holes these days, especially in family.



ETA: everythings got a label now. Can't feel alone or misunderstood in a completely (intentionally) demoralised society, without some jerk saying you have autism or depression or some other crap because they are programmed.
Be yourself and discover who you are if you don't know yet, don't look outside yourself for any answers where that's concerned

Yup. Often feel like I'm an observer. I can be in a crowded bar or night club and feel like I'm outside of it, like I'm looking through a window from the outside looking in. Also I often look at humans as a whole group and although they can show great kindness and compassion the cruelty and pain they can inflict is astounding, and the willingness to inflict damage on themselves in order to be part of a group e.g. The set yourself on fire challenge, I often end up saying, I don't understand humans. Some activities are funny though, like the Mexican wave at big events, that always makes me chuckle and smile.
I join in, party on down, interact and experience what's here, but ultimately I feel I'm not actually part of it.

a reply to: ancientlight
You're welcome among the tree-folk

a reply to: ancientlight
Whenever you ask yourself "Am I the only one", the answer is always "no".

Don't think there is anything wrong with you at all. It rather reads like you took a few steps back and saw more of the real picture, your priorities are adapting to it now. You became more observant because of it, is my guess. With that comes reflection. That you may feel detached is natural. Your frame of reference may have changed and subconsciously you are churning through it to make sense.

That's why maybe currently you can not relate at all. You might never be able again to relate to the trivial things that now stick out to you as arbitrary. But why would you want to even?

Yes it can make one lonely in mind. To be honest I can not relate to like 8/10 people in real life I meet. Mostly with those I can not relate that worry or complain about trivial things. Like not eating a portion of meat because a blood vessel sticks out or it's fatty and pick more sides and leave the meat to be thrown away (at best give it to dogs).

Then I know they never felt real hunger. Not saying anything ever, because that person would not be able to relate with me anyway, just like I can't.

a reply to: ancientlight

Alienation is society's way of punishing you when you don't support their egos.

Your description of yourself leads me to believe you might classify under the Myers Briggs personality type indicator as an "INFP."
The "IN" stands for Introvert, intuition, and the "FP" stands for feeling and perceiving.

If you are unfamiliar, there is a test online that you can take which lasts only about 15 minutes. "Yes" the questions may seem silly but I encourage you to check it out. The reason being it can help you understand your "type" better and how you interact with and are perceived by the other types. Since you already know how you "are," getting a designation is merely your result from the test and the launching pad towards much more information that you may find useful.

Google "free personality test" and go from there if your interested. For the haters: It's not going to hurt him, is it?

a reply to: ancientlight


If you feel lonely and without purpose, try helping someone else without expectations when the opportunity arises.

Sometimes we find fulfillment and growth when we shift our focus towards others plus it's nice to forget about your own stuff for awhile.

a reply to: XXXN3O

I don't really. And I love being alone , so there really is no issue I suppose. I was just wondering really.
I think most people are dim honestly.
Not here at ATS obviously

originally posted by: CthulhuMythos


Yup. Often feel like I'm an observer. I can be in a crowded bar or night club and feel like I'm outside of it, like I'm looking through a window from the outside looking in. Also I often look at humans as a whole group and although they can show great kindness and compassion the cruelty and pain they can inflict is astounding, and the willingness to inflict damage on themselves in order to be part of a group e.g. The set yourself on fire challenge, I often end up saying, I don't understand humans. Some activities are funny though, like the Mexican wave at big events, that always makes me chuckle and smile.
I join in, party on down, interact and experience what's here, but ultimately I feel I'm not actually part of it.

100% I feel I'm not a part of it , like an observer. I do wonder why that is though? Maybe we are deep thinking empaths ?

originally posted by: oxtweezxo
a reply to: ancientlight
You're welcome among the tree-folk

I often daydream actually about spending time with elves and aliens.
Those who I can relate to? Living amongst them full time , and thriving finally being free and happy.
I would rather be with an alien or elf in other ways too

a reply to: ancientlight

It could just be your personality type. Certain of the rarer types relate that they always tend to feel like outsiders, like they seldom to never fit in except with perhaps their closest friends and family.

I happen to be one of them. My brain never shuts off and I live in my head more than with others who can sometimes seem kind of limited to me.

originally posted by: ancientlight
Does anyone else always feel like an alien?
I mean wherever I go , whoever I'm with (even closest family) I will feel like an alien.
Except for when I'm with my son and ex (they have both said the same)

I feel like I can't relate to most people, and whatever they are talking about it sounds so unimportant/petty to me.
Not to say that I'm not interested in what's going on with loved ones and their thoughts/feelings etc, that does matter to me,
it's just I feel this huge gap ?

I'm also obsessed with UFOs/aliens, who knows

Yes, this is me too. A friend once described me as alone in a room full of people. I hate small talk unless I'm super comfortable with the people which is really backwards. So if I meet someone and they only talk small talk I feel I don't ever get to know them. As to autism in the comment below, I started to suspect it in me a couple years ago. Some days it's as if a physical film exists between my mind and the world and talking requires forcing my words through it. Look at people's mouths when they talk, never eyes, which made these last two years hell.

I once had a homeless guy walk up to me and say I was from Pleides, lol. So yes, who knows. I sure don't.

a reply to: ThatDamnDuckAgain

Thank you for your kind reply

Yeah, me too... mostly.

Perhaps I have mild autism or perhaps I'm a normal variant, but I've always felt more alienated than what I understand is "normal."

It is odd that my father had highly abnormal internal organs. So much so that the surgical team grilled me when he died, to the point of ridiculousness and stressed that it was in no way any pathology they had even read about. So... the perceived differences might have a physiological source. Too bad no super powers have surfaced.

originally posted by: igloo

originally posted by: ancientlight
Does anyone else always feel like an alien?
I mean wherever I go , whoever I'm with (even closest family) I will feel like an alien.
Except for when I'm with my son and ex (they have both said the same)

I feel like I can't relate to most people, and whatever they are talking about it sounds so unimportant/petty to me.
Not to say that I'm not interested in what's going on with loved ones and their thoughts/feelings etc, that does matter to me,
it's just I feel this huge gap ?

I'm also obsessed with UFOs/aliens, who knows

Yes, this is me too. A friend once described me as alone in a room full of people. I hate small talk unless I'm super comfortable with the people which is really backwards. So if I meet someone and they only talk small talk I feel I don't ever get to know them. As to autism in the comment below, I started to suspect it in me a couple years ago. Some days it's as if a physical film exists between my mind and the world and talking requires forcing my words through it. Look at people's mouths when they talk, never eyes, which made these last two years hell.

I once had a homeless guy walk up to me and say I was from Pleides, lol. So yes, who knows. I sure don't.

The Pleideans are gorgeous Nordic types

a reply to: Baddogma

Hmm my father was a 'medical mystery ' too when he died .
It happens to be his birthday today. So happy birthday dad wherever you are!

a reply to: CthulhuMythos

I can be in a crowded bar or night club and feel like I'm outside of it, like I'm looking through a window from the outside looking in.

Then why go?

I'm not criticising, I used to be the same. I don't do it now but I went through the nightclubbing phase, as most of us do. I'd look forward to going then, once inside, I'd want to go home. Hundreds of nights like that, wasted time. Doing something I didn't really want to do. Going along with the crowd.

I've heard loads of similar comments down the years. And the mad thought occurred to me that maybe we're all secretly like that. Everyone appearing to be having a great time while thinking, "This is #. Why do I come here? I need to go home. Where's the local taxi rank? I need a taxi. Maybe I'll just get drunk first."