When you look at the world, dogs do WHATEVER they want, even try to fight with other dogs and bite people (especially if small, because small dogs are
'cute', so anything they do is just seen as 'cute', and people (usually women) just pull their leashes to 'control' them - without realizing, they
only control their body, not their mind, as they SHOULD do), and kids.. holy cow, kids are allowed to, in their own damn hallway, ENTER OTHER PEOPLE'S
It's like invasion from another planet, when some .. THING.. just suddenly shrieks inside your apartment that you never invited there, a thing that
doesn't look like you, it doesn't sound like you, it screams a language completely alien and foreign to you, this is what NIGHTMARES are made out
I mean, it's one thing that they scream, shriek and holler in the hallway (should be 'hollerway'?), but it's a completely different thing when they
just ENTER YOUR APARTMENT and bring that mind-ripping noise into your own abode, it's like sanctity has been broken, NOWHERE is safe, you have been
invaded and there's no security anymore.
HOW can parents let their brats behave this way? The only consequence is screaming and more screaming. I have NEVER heard these people talk in a
'normal voice', or without some kind of anger - they don't seem to 'discuss in a civil way'. The mom just yells at the brats and that's all, the brats
scream and shriek back with the voice that's worse than a renovation drill in your head (the renovation drills can get pretty darn loud because they
have to break the concrete floors and such, but I'd rather listen to that for 12 hours a day every month than listen to 10 seconds of that OTHER noise
that cuts your soul to pieces and gets on every nerve you have and then some).
Of course all of this seems very systematic; the 'useful idiots', often women (don't shoot me, I am just the messenger) have this 'compassionate'
approach to immigration (especially illegal immigration), where they only see the rosy picture of someone poor that is now given a chance for a better
life, and then this 'compassion' is used to flow enormous amount of .. I don't know a proper term here, but you get the idea .. into the country, then
they're put to live amidst 'regular' people, without TEACHING them anything, from ordinances to rules to behaviour to ..
.. I mean, renovation is hell as it is, a missing important facility from your apartment is stressful enough, having to share a facility with all
kinds of neighbours you don't know (I have very new neighbours, some of which I haven't even seen yet, and others that are really bad dog handlers -
was kind of startled to suddenly get a chain-BARK at my face when I went to my balcony, and seeing the female handler didn't perform a proper
correction, just basically touched the dog's mouth and took the dog inside) very well..
... but to have to do it in THIS kind of circumstances, that feel like someone broke my real-life firewall and started hacking me, it's like ten times
worse than it otherwise would have been.
To his credit, the renovation man did apologize and started telling the stories about the wild and crazy kid that's allowed to do whatever he wants,
running into other people's apartments.
This kind of parents really make other people's lives hell. I don't understand why people that have NO clue about child psychology, reproduce so much.
Do they think it's gonna be easy? Do they not care?
I mean, if I get ANYTHING new, I am going to gosh-darned well RESEARCH it, first. If I were to get a dog, you could BET I would be an expert on dog
psychology, if I were to get a computer, I would know every little microchip and detail of that computer before I buy it, and if I were to ever
reproduce (I have no plans to in this kind of a world, but I never had ANY kind of urge to do so anyway, so I can't even understand why anyone would
want to be a parent, not rationally, emotionally or 'urge-wise'), you could be sure I would know more about child psychology than some child
But not these people.. they buy dogs because they're 'cute', they reproduce because (?????) .. well, I have NEVER figured out why anyone would
reproduce, but why can't they AT LEAST research something before doing it? Why don't they ANTICIPATE problems? Why don't they understand the
importance of DISCIPLINE?
Discipline is a great thing, it gives the child SECURITY and feeling their life has structure, it makes a dog happy, because the dog doesn't have to
take the pack leader role, so the dog can relax and trust the human, and so on.
And yet, parents and dog handlers seem to be as afraid of discipline as they have the urge to own a dog or have a kid.
I don't get it.. can anyone explain?
In any case, life has a way of breaking your 'cocoon' if you try to shield yourself from circumstances or your own karma, it forces you into
situations where you have to face the most irritating things you can imagine, and then some. Then it instills fear in you, takes away any (maybe
false) feeling of security and control you thought you had over your life, and lets these [censored] invade your very soul.
So anyone who thinks karma doesn't work, think again; you might end up in this very situation! I don't mean physically or circumstancially, I mean
spiritually-emotionally and feeling-wise (there's a difference between 'emotion' and 'feeling').
The circumstances might be different, but when life wants to punch you, it knows exactly how to do it, and where your vulnerabilities are.
I am telling ya (whoever 'ya' are), I have rarely felt quite THIS vulnerable and invaded in my life.
I am sure life can do worse; when I listen or read other people's experiences, or think about things like wars, where some foreign adult people with
guns break down your door and start doing vile stuff, yeah, I admit it's worse.
But my situation sort of hints at such possibility.. if THIS can happen today, WHAT can happen tomorrow? How am I going to sleep tonight, knowing this
problem is not going to be fixed, those parents are SO clueless and imbalanced, their brat is going to be a criminal pretty certainly - heck, he
ALREADY IS! (Home invasion is one of the worst crimes after the more serious ones, like murder and violence - it's like mental violence already)
Parents, PLEASE watch some episodes of Supernanny, LEARN to discipline your kid for the kid's OWN GOOD if nothing else. It is the best thing you can
do for your family, your kid, yourself and your neighbours and environment. Make sure your kid has rules, boundaries and limitations, and NEVER be
angry at your kid, never scream or yell (we are only human, so maybe it's unavoidable sometimes, but if you learn proper techniques, you shouldn't
feel the need to, in the long run).
Learn about the naughty mat/chair/corner/etc., learn about how to discipline without anger, without violence, but yet powerfully and in a way that
creates lots of boredom for the child. Boredom is the most annoying thing to a kid, so instead of screaming and other stuff that can be considered
child abuse, install BOREDOM to your kid whenever they misbehave, and do it with STRUCTURE - first an explanation, afterwards demand for an apology.
If no apology comes, the boredom continues.
Relatively simple things, but millions of people seem to be utterly clueless, and I have the misfortune (or bad karma) to have to live as their