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originally posted by: alexandrae
There are so many people that are so rude and critical in a cruel way...and they are cruel on purpose and enjoy hurting people.
originally posted by: alexandrae
Cruelty Inc. is a name I have given to certain people. You know....you are going through a difficult time and instead of giving real help...they put you down and attack your self-worth your good qualities....emotionally and mentally they try and tear you apart.
I once handed out free clothes to people who needed them and got beat up for it. That was so difficult. I like to help people when I can...a five dollar bill, encouragement,' a listening ear a shoulder to cry on.
There are so many people that are so rude and critical in a cruel way...and they are cruel on purpose and enjoy hurting people.
The tenderness of kindness, showing respect to people giving them dignity. The verbal attack by someone you don't even know and have done nothing to.
They say help those that want to be helped; those that don't walk away from.
"The road to hell is paved with good intentions."
originally posted by: geezlouise
a reply to: Onlyyouknow
I'm not discouraging anybody from being less helpful, in fact what I'm doing here is encouraging people to be more helpful.
By challenging others to think more deeply about it.
I'm only being empathetic to those who might feel offended by a supposed "gift."
For one, I have given "gifts" with good intentions prior and it had negative consequences, and I was able to contemplate it and understand it and deduce that maybe it was kind of pompous of me, wasn't it, to decide that this other person needed this specific "gift" and surprise them with it. Even if my heart was pure.
Some people just don't like to be surprised and it would be a kindness to be empathetic of that.
And also I just empathize what it feels like to sense that this other person giving this "gift" is really looking down on others and feeling superior, and there's not all that much empathy, and there's no connection.
There's so many variables and layers to it, you know?