posted on Sep, 3 2021 @ 03:38 PM
Okay, I will make this as polite as possible--more of a conversation--even though it's in the rant section where the icon is someone screaming in
anger (lest it get deleted). And I certainly won't reference any previous instances of this, as that has gotten one of my rants deleted before as
Let me start with a positive statement: It's okay to be wrong
Yes, being wrong happens to us all*, and not a single one of us knows everything. That's perfectly fine, and an accepted part of being human by most
people. It should be embraced and used as a tool--a motivator--to research and learn and expand our understanding of things in our world.
I have been wrong uncountable times in my life, and I still get the proverbial "it" wrong now and will in the future. But I try to learn from it; I
try to research topics before I opine on them; I try to communicate with purposeful intent so that things can't get misconstrued (but they still
often do, mostly at the fault of the reader).
That parenthetical point is from where my rant originates. I have recently fallen into the trap of arguing with people on here who, intentionally or
not, misrepresent or lie about what I say and then argue against me based on their interpretation of what was said. When I explain that they are
arguing against something that I did not say, even quoting myself directly to support my point, there is nearly a universal refusal to accept that
they were wrong. And then, they often double-down on their argument or begin moving the goalposts in order to make their original response sound
correct or appropriate (and sometimes add a dose of ad-hominem attack in there for good measure).
• Is this simply a fear of being wrong?
• Maybe an addiction to having to be right all of the time?
• Is it unhealthy hubris?
• Is it just simply unintentional trolling...or passive-aggressive intentional trolling?
• Maybe just a case of poorly reading between the lines?
• Anger at getting called out on a public forum?
I don't really have an answer nor a solution, but it is absolutely annoying AF. I definitely acknowledge that I should probably employ the mentality
of assessing if someone is worth arguing with before I hit the "post" button, but the thing is that it even happens with well-known members who I
don't think act this way. And, unfortunately, I can't predict who will act this way and who will not.
I know that a lot of people deal with this and I'm not alone at all, but dammit, why do people have to suck the enjoyment out of threads and this
site sometimes acting this way?
* I know that I'm not always immune to this, but I sure hope and believe that I do not do this so often that people think of me as being
"that guy." Maybe I'm wrong...