Well I guess the dudelys can answer as well.
I have a friend. I consider him my best friend in the whole world. He's like a brother. I have a serious man-crush on this person too.
We actually continue to shoot the sheet on fb messenger almost every day and it's been this way for 15+ years. We don't live in the same state, but
have met in person several times. However, I KNOW this person.
Well he's given up his bachelor ways in the last couple years. I'm happy for him, even though his wife is a bit of a spaz sometimes.
Anyways to the point of the topic. They have just had their 2nd child. It was a planned inducing. The night before, he and I actually watched a movie
together before he was like "Uhhh oh yeah! I should get some sleep since my wife is going to birth a human in the morning."
He is really sharp and on the ball, and has a great sense of empathy for others. So I was a bit surprised that he didn't mention it before. Like,
maybe that wasn't a good night to hang with the bros or something. I kind of felt weirded about that.
For their first kid, he mentioned that he hung out in the smoking area and chose not to witness the birth. I was also a little weirded out by that
too. I thought it was a little old-fashioned for a father not to witness it. It also didn't seem like a choice he'd make, I don't know--. The other
thing is, she is very passive with him, so I doubt she had any grievances, or would even voice them.
I really don't meddle in other peoples' choices and I haven't said anything to them about it. This is just my take on something that doesn't concern
me, but I can't ignore my assessment of it.
I know he loves her very much, and I know he's a good person. I don't have kids or a wife, but as an outsider his choices seemed kind of ambivalent,
and he never struck me as an ambivalent person with the people in his life.
I'm mostly curious how the women and mothers of ATS feel about that. Would you want your baby-daddy or husband to witness the birth, be there with
you? Would you be okay with them chillin' with the homies instead? Just wait for them to bring the car around?
It just seems to me it would be a very important moment to be together. And yet, he chose not to be with his wife during those moments.
If I ever had kids, I think I would insist on being there.
edit on 12-5-2021 by NarcolepticBuddha because: (no reason given)